Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Monday, February 23, 2009
The face of child abuse
This video was made to show and educate people that child abusers can be ANYONE....Someone who you think would never ever harm a child.
Report the abuse..don't wait. We all have a duty to protect these children. They can't fight the monsters in their life. Only we can.
Friday, February 20, 2009
Another grandmother who THINKS her grandchild is HERS
The Caylee Anthony case has touched the hearts of most anyone in the world. Her mother still sits in jail, her mother was not present, nor did she ask to be present at the memorial service. Cindy Anthony said some things in her beautiful eulogy that were striking. You see, Cindy thought Caylee was HER baby, she could not accept that Caylee was a grand-daughter. It has been mentioned that at a birthday party for Caylee that Cindy wanted Caylee to call her MOM and that Cindy was helping Caylee open her gifts. In this video, Cindy says God gave her three children.
What Casey Anthony did to little Caylee is wrong by all means, and Casey Anthony really needs some help in so many perspectives, yet with reviewing this eulogy again and catching on to what Cindy says about Caylee being her own it makes you wonder if Casey murdered Caylee because Casey is the baby of the family and her own mother was giving her baby more attention that she was giving her own child. So did Casey feel jilted? This still does not justify what Casey Anthony did to Caylee, but may be a place for psychologist to start working with Casey Anthony.
This should be a wakeup call to all the grandmothers out there who want to have so much control over their grandchildren that they see them as their own, instead of just loving them like they should, like a grandchild, not a child. Grandmothers, you raised your children, you did your job, now let your children raise their children and love their children like your parents let you raise and love yours. Think about how you would have felt when raising your children, if your mother would have taken over your child and you had no say so, no decision making in their rearing, and how it would have affected you directly.
The Caylee Anthony case has touched the hearts of most anyone in the world. Her mother still sits in jail, her mother was not present, nor did she ask to be present at the memorial service. Cindy Anthony said some things in her beautiful eulogy that were striking. You see, Cindy thought Caylee was HER baby, she could not accept that Caylee was a grand-daughter. It has been mentioned that at a birthday party for Caylee that Cindy wanted Caylee to call her MOM and that Cindy was helping Caylee open her gifts. In this video, Cindy says God gave her three children.
What Casey Anthony did to little Caylee is wrong by all means, and Casey Anthony really needs some help in so many perspectives, yet with reviewing this eulogy again and catching on to what Cindy says about Caylee being her own it makes you wonder if Casey murdered Caylee because Casey is the baby of the family and her own mother was giving her baby more attention that she was giving her own child. So did Casey feel jilted? This still does not justify what Casey Anthony did to Caylee, but may be a place for psychologist to start working with Casey Anthony.
This should be a wakeup call to all the grandmothers out there who want to have so much control over their grandchildren that they see them as their own, instead of just loving them like they should, like a grandchild, not a child. Grandmothers, you raised your children, you did your job, now let your children raise their children and love their children like your parents let you raise and love yours. Think about how you would have felt when raising your children, if your mother would have taken over your child and you had no say so, no decision making in their rearing, and how it would have affected you directly.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Help raise the awareness
Dr. Amy Baker
I Don't Want to Choose: How Middle School Kids Can...
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Wednesday, February 18, 2009
DC Festival 2009
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Your parenting class is today
No MAIL? O My.....
A really sweet lady I know wrote this today and I think it fits well with this mail ordeal.
Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child
Monday, February 16, 2009
Main site has been updated
I just want to take the time to Thank the many people, you know who you are who have sent letters of support, provided information, your statements for my legal team and even to those of you who do not agree with the plight. But most of all I want to thank everyone for their prayers. Because of all of you, the positive and negative I have found the strength to fight the fight of my life.
There are days when it seems like time is standing still, and there are days when time fly’s by so fast there is not enough time to get everything done. But in the end it is all coming together in a nice little package.
Please continue to pray, because this is nowhere near being over. But great progressive and positive steps have been made forward in this fight. Ears and eyes are open that once were closed and the evidenc eis speaking for itself.
With all my love,
Stepheny
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Section 1983
Section 1983 of title 42 of the U.S. Code is part of the Civil Rights Act of 1871. This provision was formerly enacted as part of the Ku Klux Klan Act of 1871 and was originally designed to combat post-Civil War racial violence in the Southern states. Reenacted as part of the Civil Rights Act, section 1983 is today the primary means of enforcing all constitutional rights.
Section 1983 provides:
Every person who, under color of any statute, ordinance, regulation, custom, or usage, of any State or Territory or the District of Columbia, subjects, or causes to be subjected, any citizen of the United States or other person within the jurisdiction thereof to the deprivation of any rights, privileges, or immunities secured by the Constitution and laws, shall be liable to the party injured in an action at law, suit in equity, or other proper proceeding for redress.
On March 23, 1871, President Ulysses S. Grant sent an urgent message to Congress calling for national legislation that could combat the alarming increase in racial unrest and violence in the South. Congress reacted swiftly to this request, proposing a bill just five days later. The primary objective of the bill was to provide a means for individuals and states to enforce, in the federal or state courts, the provisions of the Fourteenth Amendment. The proposed bill created heated debate lasting several weeks but was eventually passed on April 20, 1871.
During the first ninety years of the act, few causes of action were brought due to the narrow and restrictive way that the U.S. Supreme Court interpreted the act. For example, the phrase "person … [acting] under color of any statute" was not interpreted to include those wrongdoers who happened to be state or municipal officials acting within the scope of their employment but not in accordance with the state or municipal laws. Those officials were successfully able to argue that they were not acting under color of statute and therefore their actions did not fall under the mandates of section 1983. In addition, courts narrowly construed the definition of "rights, privileges, or immunities."
But the Supreme Court decisions in Monroe v. Pape, 365 U.S. 167, 81 S. Ct. 473, 5 L. Ed. 2d 492 (1961), and Monell v. Department of Social Services, 436 U.S. 658, 98 S. Ct. 2018, 56 L. Ed. 2d 611 (1978), finally recognized the full scope of Congress's original intent in enacting section 1983. The Supreme Court began accepting an expansive definition of rights, privileges, or immunities and held that the act does cover the actions of state and municipal officials, even if they had no authority under state statute to act as they did in violating someone's federal rights.
Jurisdiction
Federal courts are authorized to hear cases brought under section 1983 pursuant to two statutory provisions: 28 U.S.C.A. § 1343(3) (1948) and 28 U.S.C.A. § 1331 (1948). The former statute permits federal district courts to hear cases involving the deprivation of civil rights, and the latter statute permits federal courts to hear all cases involving a federal question or issue. Cases brought under section 1983 may therefore be heard in federal courts by application of both jurisdictional statutes.
State courts may also properly hear section 1983 cases pursuant to the Supremacy Clause of Article VI of the U.S. Constitution. The Supremacy Clause mandates that states must provide hospitable forums for federal claims and the vindication of federal rights. This point was solidified in the Supreme Court decision of Felder v. Casey, 487 U.S. 131, 108 S. Ct. 2302, 101 L. Ed. 2d 123 (1988). The Felder case involved an individual who was arrested in Wisconsin and later brought suit in state court against the police officers and city for violations of his federal rights. The state court dismissed the claim because the plaintiff failed to properly comply with a state procedural law. But the Supreme Court overturned the state decision, holding that the Wisconsin statute could not bar the individual's federal claim.
To bring an action under section 1983, the plaintiff does not have to begin in state court. However, if the plaintiff chooses to bring suit in state court, the defendant has the right to remove the case to federal court.
Elements of a Section 1983 Claim
To prevail in a claim under section 1983, the plaintiff must prove two critical issues: a person subjected the plaintiff to conduct that occurred under color of state law, and this conduct deprived the plaintiff of rights, privileges, or immunities guaranteed under federal law or the U.S. Constitution.
A state is not a "person" under section 1983, but a city is a person under the law (Will v. Michigan Department of State Police, 491 U.S. 58, 109 S. Ct. 2304, 105 L. Ed. 2d 45 [1989]). Similarly, state officials sued in their official capacities are not deemed persons under section 1983, but if sued in their personal capacities, they are considered to be persons. Thus if a plaintiff wants to bring a section 1983 claim against a state official, she or he must name the defendants in their personal capacity and not in their professional capacity. Like a state, a territory, such as the territory of Guam, is not considered to be a person for the purposes of section 1983.
The Supreme Court has broadly construed the provision "under color of any statute" to include virtually any state action including the exercise of power of one "possessed by virtue of state law and made possible only because the wrongdoer is clothed with the authority of state law" (United States v. Classic, 313 U.S. 299, 61 S. Ct. 1031, 85 L. Ed. 1368 [1941]). Thus, the wrongdoer's employment by the government may indicate state action, although it does not conclusively prove it. Even if the wrongdoer did not act pursuant to a state statute, the plaintiff may still show that the defendant acted pursuant to a "custom or usage" that had the force of law in the state. In Adickes v. S. H. Kress & Co., 398 U.S. 144, 90 S. Ct. 1598, 26 L. Ed. 2d 142 (1970), the plaintiff was able to prove that she was refused service in a restaurant due to her race because of a state-enforced custom of racial segregation, even though no state statute promoted racial segregation in restaurants.
A successful section 1983 claim also requires a showing of the deprivation of a constitutional or federal statutory "right." This showing is required because section 1983 creates a remedy when rights are violated but does not create any rights itself. It is not enough to show a violation of a federal law because all federal laws do not necessarily create federal rights. A violation of the Fourth Amendment's guarantee against unreasonable searches and seizures or a violation of the Commerce Clause are examples of federal constitutional rights that may be deprived. Deprivation of federal statutory rights is also actionable when it can be shown that the statute creates a federal right. To show that a federal statute creates a federal right, the plaintiff must demonstrate that the federal law was designed and clearly intended to benefit the plaintiff, resulting in the creation of a federal right. For example, the Supreme Court held that a person's entitlement to welfare benefits under the federal Social Security Act is a federal right stemming from a federal statute that can be protected by section 1983 (Maine v. Thiboutot, 448 U.S. 1, 100 S. Ct. 2502, 65 L. Ed. 2d 555 [1980]).
If the plaintiff can demonstrate that a federal law granted her a federal right that was then violated, the defendant can defeat the plaintiff's claim by demonstrating that Congress specifically foreclosed a remedy under section 1983 for the type of injury that the plaintiff is pleading. The Supreme Court has held that the defendant must prove that a section 1983 action would be inconsistent with the cautious and precise scheme of remedies provided by Congress. For example, if a federal law specifically provides for a means to privately enforce that law, or if the statute does not create "rights" within the meaning of section 1983, the defendant may prevail in showing that Congress did not intend a section 1983 remedy to apply in that circumstance. It is the defendant's burden to demonstrate congressional intent to prevent a remedy under section 1983.
Absolute and Qualified Immunities
Although section 1983 does not specifically provide for absolute immunity for any parties, the Supreme Court has deemed that some officials are immune. The Supreme Court reached this conclusion by applying the common-law principles of tort immunity that existed in the United States at the time section 1983 was enacted, assuming that Congress had intended those common-law immunities to apply without having to specifically so provide in the statute. State and regional legislators are absolutely immune, as long as they are engaged in traditional legislative functions. Although the Supreme Court has not had the opportunity to extend this rule to municipal legislators, lower courts have done so (Reed v. Village of Shorewood, 704 F.2d 943 [7th Cir. 1983]).
Judges have also been held to be absolutely immune from section 1983 actions, as long as they are performing adjudicative functions (Pierson v. Ray, 386 U.S. 547, 87 S. Ct. 1213, 18 L. Ed. 2d 288 [1967]; Stump v. Sparkman, 435 U.S. 349, 98 S. Ct. 1099, 55 L. Ed. 2d 331 [1978]). Judges are considered to be performing their adjudicative functions as long as they had jurisdiction over the subject matter at the time they acted and the action was a judicial act. A minority of lower courts have extended this absolute judicial immunity to quasi-judicial agencies, such as parole boards, when they have performed functions similar to those of judges (Johnson v. Wells, 566 F.2d 1016 [5th Cir. 1978]). Absolute judicial immunity has also been extended in some cases to those judicial employees who act under the direction of the judge, such as a law clerk, court administrator, paralegal, or court reporter (Lockhart v. Hoenstine, 411 F.2d 455 [3d Cir. 1969]).
State prosecuting attorneys who are acting within the scope of their duty in presenting the state's case are also absolutely immune from suits for damages under section 1983 claims but are not absolutely immune from suits seeking prospective relief (Imbler v. Pachtman, 424 U.S. 409, 96 S. Ct. 984, 47 L. Ed. 2d 128 [1976]). Other state officials who act in a prosecutorial role are similarly immune. The Supreme Court differentiated public defenders, however, in Polk County v. Dodson, 454 U.S. 312, 102 S. Ct. 445, 70 L. Ed. 2d 509 (1981), holding that they do not act under color of state law when performing their duties and therefore are not in need of immunity because their conduct is not covered by section 1983.
Witnesses who testify in court are absolutely immune from section 1983 actions for damages, even if the claim arises out of the wit- ness's perjured testimony (Briscoe v. LaHue, 460 U.S. 325, 103 S. Ct. 1108, 75 L. Ed. 2d 96 [1983]).
The Supreme Court has also recognized a qualified immunity defense to section 1983 actions in certain circumstances. Most state and local officials and employees, who do not enjoy absolute immunity, are entitled to qualified immunity. Thus, a prosecuting attorney who enjoys absolute immunity in performing her prosecutorial functions may also enjoy a qualified immunity in hiring and firing subordinates. The Supreme Court has held that school board members, state mental institution administrators, law enforcement officers, prison officials, and state and local executives have qualified immunity (Wood v. Strickland, 420 U.S. 308, 95 S. Ct. 992, 43 L. Ed. 2d 214 [1975]; O'Connor v. Donaldson, 422 U.S. 563, 95 S. Ct. 2486, 45 L. Ed. 2d 396 [1975]; Pierson v. Ray, 386 U.S. 547, 87 S. Ct. 1213, 18 L. Ed. 2d 288 [1967]; Procunier v. Navarette, 434 U.S. 555, 98 S. Ct. 855, 55 L. Ed. 2d 24 [1978]; Scheuer v. Rhodes, 416 U.S. 232, 94 S. Ct. 1683, 40 L. Ed. 2d 90 [1974]). Most federal circuit courts have deemed that parole board members and prison disciplinary committee members have qualified immunity (Fowler v. Cross, 635 F.2d 476 [5th Cir. 1981]; Thompson v. Burke, 556 F.2d 231 [3d Cir. 1977]). Lower courts have extended the defense of qualified immunity to a number of other officials, such as city managers, county health administrators, and state Department of Veterans' Affairs trust officers.
If the defendant can raise the defense of absolute or qualified immunity, then it is his duty to plead it (Gomez v. Toledo, 446 U.S. 635, 100 S. Ct. 1920, 64 L. Ed. 2d 572 [1980]).
Remedies
The Supreme Court has held that section 1983 creates "a species of tort liability" (Imbler v. Pachtman, 424 U.S. 409, 96 S. Ct. 984, 47 L. Ed. 2d 128 [1976]). Thus, the Supreme Court has held that, as in tort law, a section 1983 plaintiff is entitled to receive only nominal damages, not to exceed one dollar, unless she or he can prove actual damages (Carey v. Piphus, 435 U.S. 247, 98 S. Ct. 1042, 55 L. Ed. 2d 252 [1978]). The jury is not entitled to place a monetary value on the constitutional rights of which the plaintiff was deprived (Memphis Community School District v. Stachura, 477 U.S. 299, 106 S. Ct. 2537, 91 L. Ed. 2d 249 [1986]). Plaintiffs bear the burden, therefore, of presenting evidence of all expenses incurred, such as medical or psychiatric expenses, lost wages, and any damages due to pain and suffering, emotional distress, or damage to reputation. The plaintiff is also under a burden to mitigate his damages, and the award of damages may be reduced to the extent that the plaintiff failed to do so.
A section 1983 plaintiff is also required to prove that a federal right was violated and, similar to tort law, that the alleged violation was a proximate or legal cause of the damages that the plaintiff suffered (Arnold v. IBM Corp., 637 F.2d 1350 [9th Cir. 1981]).
The Supreme Court has also held that, similar to tort law, punitive damages are available under section 1983 (Smith v. Wade, 461 U.S. 30, 103 S. Ct. 1625, 75 L. Ed. 2d 632 [1983]). A plaintiff is entitled to punitive damages if the jury finds that the defendant's conduct was reckless or callously indifferent to the federally protected rights of others, or if the defendant was motivated by an evil intent. The jury has the duty to assess the amount of punitive damages. Because the purpose of punitive damages is to punish the wrongdoer, such damages may be awarded even if the plaintiff cannot show actual damages (Basista v. Weir, 340 F.2d 74 [3d Cir. 1965]). As in tort law, the judge has the right to overturn a jury verdict if the jury awards what the judge considers to be excessive punitive damages.
Courts also have broad power to grant equitable relief to plaintiffs in section 1983 actions. Equitable remedies that courts have provided in the past include school desegregation, restructuring of state mental health facilities, and restructuring of prisons (United States v. City of Yonkers, 96 F. 3d 600 [2nd Cir. 1996]; Wyatt v. Stickney, 344 F. Supp. 373 [M.D. Ala. 1972]; Hutto v. Finney, 437 U.S. 678, 98 S. Ct. 2565, 57 L. Ed. 2d 522 [1978]). When the court does provide equitable relief, it usually also provides ongoing evaluation and supervision of the enforcement of its orders.
The Civil Rights Attorney's Fee Awards Act of 1976 (42 U.S.C.A. § 1988[b]) allows for the award of reasonable attorneys' fees to the prevailing party in cases brought under various federal civil rights laws, including section 1983. This provision applies whether or not compensatory damages were awarded. This provision also applies whether the plaintiff or the defendant prevails. However, if the defendant is the prevailing party, attorneys' fees have been held to be appropriate only where the lawsuit was "vexatious, frivolous, or brought to harass or embarrass the defendant" (Hensley v. Eckerhart, 461 U.S. 424, 103 S. Ct. 1933, 76 L. Ed. 2d 40 [1983]). In addition, section 1988 does not require that the attorneys' fees awarded be in proportion to the amount of damages recovered (City of Riverside v. Rivera, 477 U.S. 561, 106 S. Ct. 2686, 91 L. Ed. 2d 466 [1986]).
Rule 68 of the Federal Rules of Civil Procedure can lead to the adjustment of the amount of damages awarded by a jury in a section 1983 case. Enacted to encourage parties to settle their matters out of court, rule 68 provides that if the plaintiff rejected a settlement offer made by the defendant before trial that is better than the award the plaintiff ultimately received in the trial, the defendant is not liable for plaintiff's attorneys' fees incurred after the time the defendant made the settlement offer (Marek v. Chesny, 473 U.S. 1, 105 S. Ct. 3012, 87 L. Ed. 2d 1 [1985]). Under rule 68, section 1983 plaintiffs need to carefully consider any settlement offers made by the defendants.
Bars to Relief
Section 1983 does not provide a specific statute of limitations, which is a time limit in which a claim must be brought after the alleged violation occurred. But 42 U.S.C.A. § 1988 (1976) states that where the federal law does not provide a statute of limitations, state law shall apply. In determining which state statute of limitations to apply in a section 1983 case, the Supreme Court has held that in the interests of national uniformity and predictability, all section 1983 claims shall be treated as tort claims for the recovery of personal injuries (Wilson v. Garcia, 471 U.S. 261, 105 S. Ct. 1938, 85 L. Ed. 2d 254 [1985]). If the state has various statutes of limitations for different intentional torts, the Supreme Court mandates that the state's general or residual personal injury statute of limitations should apply (Owens v. Okure, 488 U.S. 235, 109 S. Ct. 573, 102 L. Ed. 2d 594 [1989]).
The Supreme Court has also held that state tolling statutes, which provide a plaintiff with an additional period of time in which to bring a lawsuit equal to the period of time in which the plaintiff was legally disabled, apply to section 1983 cases (Board of Regents v. Tomanio, 446 U.S. 478, 100 S. Ct. 1790, 64 L. Ed. 2d 440 [1980]).
Under section 1983, the statute of limitations does not begin to run until the cause of action accrues. The cause of action accrues when "the plaintiff knows or has reason to know of the injury which is the basis of the action" (Cox v. Stanton, 529 F.2d 47 [4th Cir. 1975]). However, in employment law cases, the Supreme Court has held that the cause of action accrues when the discriminatory act occurs (Delaware State College v. Ricks, 449 U.S. 250, 101 S. Ct. 498, 66 L. Ed. 2d 431 [1980]). Thus, if an employee is being terminated for reasons that violate section 1983, the statute of limitations begins on the day that the employee learns of the termination, not when the termination actually begins (Chardon v. Fernandez, 454 U.S. 6, 102 S. Ct. 28, 70 L. Ed. 2d 6 [1981]).
The legal rules of res judicata (claim preclusion) and collateral estoppel (issue preclusion) apply to section 1983 claims. This means that federal courts must give state court judgments the same preclusive effect that the law of the state in which the judgment was rendered would give. Plaintiffs need to be careful to raise all potential federal claims in cases brought in state court because they will not be allowed to bring those claims later in federal court after the state court has rendered a decision on the issues before it.
A plaintiff may waive his or her right to sue under section 1983, but such a waiver may be deemed unenforceable if "the interest in its enforcement is outweighed in the circumstances by a public policy harmed by enforcement of the agreement" (Town of Newton v. Rumery, 480 U.S. 386, 107 S. Ct. 1187, 94 L. Ed. 2d 405 [1987]).
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Octomom--whats new with her today?
Now here is the kicker to it, she already has another publicist.
Apparently her first publicist quit her because of all the hate mail and the threats. When are these baby collectors like Nadya going to realize that they really are not liked? You would think they could see it with their own eyes… But wait…. Lest we forget were dealing with a narcissist here. They are so vain they really do not understand that it is possible that people do not like them.
So anyway, the state of California is broke, they are making state workers take two days off a month and state income tax checks are in the form of an IOU, and you have sick baby collectors like Nadya who can not afford to have these children much less be able to take care of 14 kids and claims that she is not on welfare. What the hell do you call food stamps and SSDI?
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Haleigh Cummings missing child in Florida
The father has a past of abuse. He does work, I will give him that. But he is also known to deal drugs. There are people in and out of that trailer all the time. ANYONE could have taken this baby. You do not just have people in and out of your house all the time. It is just a prelude for bad things to come, and for this family, something bad has come of the past behavior.
So who really is to blame? The father and his group of peers are to blame. Yes he is distraught, he does love his child, but obviously not enough to (A) get the medical care she needed. You see Haleigh has a medical condition that should have been taken care of. (B) He has people in and out of his home and God only knows at what times of day or night or what intervals. A person interested in being a real parent grows up when the kids come along and no longer engages in these kinds of activities. (C) No MAN who is a father has a 17 year old live in girl friend to care for his children, at 17 she is still a child herself.
From watching this case unfold on TV I have problems with both parents and their families, too many lies have been told. But most of the lies have been told from within the residence this child resides in. Even if we find out this was a predator, the blame still goes to the dad. I do not care if he is poor, he is a dad, and he has responsibilities to his children, responsibilities that he did not carry out within the best interest of his children.
Before this over with I am sure there will be more and more mud slinging, I am sure that a lot more about the parents will come out in the public and I will be sitting, listening with open ears and eyes. I think whoever the judge was that gave this piece of shit man-boy custody of these children should be held responsible in some way for leaving these kids in the custody of this piece of crap.
No not all men are bad fathers, but ones who make bad decisions and live inappropriately have no business raising children AT ALL……
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HAPPY VALENTINES JUSTIN AND JERAMY!
Even though your Grandmother Shirley and your father decided to take my weekend I want you to know I am thinking of you today. You boys are the loves of my life, my heart and soul.
Shirley and Skip, you can play your games all you wish, but each time the boys miss their weekend with me, it is documented and the Judge will not look kindly upon eihter of you for the habitual disreguard of a court order. Enjoy this Valentines with MY boy's. Your wispers to Jeramy on the phone were heard, just remember this, your are not hurting me when you go against the court order, you are hurting the little boys you claim to love so much and your hurting yourselves when it comes to any chance of keeping those boys with you. Yeah, you really do love them dont you? Enjoy your day, you never know what life may bring when the tables are turned.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Caylee Anthony
Last night, the night before the public memorial Casey Anthony spoke, not directly but through her attorney. When I heard her message delivered by her attorney I felt a little anger. In her press message she talks about the arrangements were not what she wanted and he had no control. You know, she deserves no control, no say so, and no right to choose. I would not be as angry as I am about that statement if it were not for the fact that “A” she has chosen not to speak before now. “B” she did not ask to watch the service on the television at the jail and “C” she did not ask if she could go on a field trip to the church to see the memorial before the service. (I understand there is no way she would have been allowed to attend the actual service, but she could have asked to be taken in the night before or the morning of) She made her press opportunity all about herself like a true narcissist.
The service was beautiful and I am thankful to the media that they televised it on the national news station CNN. Though, not the first funeral or memorial service ever televised, this one seemed even more special. Caylee was not a celebrity, she was not a past president or politician, she was, until her death a normal two year old living in Orlando, Florida. There were hundreds if not thousands of people who showed up in Orlando, Florida today to pay their last respects, most of whom never knew Caylee in her natural life. This speaks volumes for some of the people of our nation.
Despite my feelings towards Casey Anthony, and the Anthony’s throughout this entire, very public case I had to set those feelings aside for just a moment in time, for today was all about Caylee. Here in Mississippi it was a gloomy day, but from what I could see on the television, Orlando was the perfect setting to say goodbye to this sweet angel. One of the most emotional moments of the service for me was when the doves were released. What a glorious gesture the act of the release was.
The entire point of my post is this, there are thousands of people who care more about a child they never met in life, than the mother who brought her into this world. It is people like the ones who showed not only in person at the memorial but also the thousands if not millions who watched from home because they could not travel to be in Orlando to pay their respects in person. It is the people who care and love like they do, that we need in our fight for ALL children. Abused children, neglected children, children who need a voice to help speak for them, children who are at risk because the caretakers in their life are not doing the right thing by them, and there are millions of children right here in the United States who need people to care, to see the real dangers, and to care enough to do something about it, they need someone to speak up and for them, and for the officials to have the jurisdiction to act upon the facts. It angers me and makes me sick to my stomach sick when I see children who are not getting the care, the love and attention they deserve, go un-noticed, their needs not met. These children are at risk of becoming another statistic.
If you know of a child or children who are at risk, do not be afraid to speak up, you very well could save a child’s life; you could be their saving grace. Our graveyards will continue to fill up, our prisons will continue to be filled to capacity if we do not exercise better parenting skills, and if we choose to sit idle and not say a word when we see neglect and abuse.
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Sunday, February 8, 2009
THE ART OF SELFISHNESS
WHY? Because they do not have God in their life.
Lovers of money and aroused by an inordinate greedy desire for wealth. The Bible tells us that God gives blessings to His beloved in his sleep (Ps. 127:2). Jos. 1:6-8 gives the real formula for good success. I have noticed that many people completely ware themselves out attempting to obtain money and things (the better things of life). They lose their children to drugs, people who prey on children, polluted and perverted sex, or suicide and do not awake from their slumber until the children have been destroyed. Our children follow our example.
Proud and arrogant and contemptuous boasters. Have you ever noticed who does the bragging and boasting? It is usually those who are attempting to cover their failures. Are they full of hot air? People who boast are really showing their rejection. Our children follow our example.
You know our kids are born as innocent beings craving knowledge, and have an eagerness to learn. Yet too many parents turn the role of teacher over to television and video games, they count on schools to teach their children the difference between right and wrong. But our schools are limited to what they can teach and can't teach because of laws that prevent appropriate discipline and learning.
If the African proverb is correct, that "it takes a village to raise a child," then we need a village that not only accepts the responsibility of raising children in a Christian way, but we need a village that knows what to teach.
Hmmmmmmm......................
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
A Non Custodial Parent’s Declaration of Independence
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Nadya Suleman gave birth to six boys and two girls
So why am I blogging about this? This woman needs help, and I do not mean financial help.
You see, this mom, does not have the means to support her children, she is SINGLE, which would not be a huge deal if she did not have so many kids. Her children were concieved invitro.
I have been watching some of the coverage of this story, and is has been said she was obsessed with having kids from the time she was a teen. Now she is looking to sell her story. So what does it all come down to? She is a narcissist; she is doing this to bring attention to herself, and for financial gain.
Oh, did I say financial gain? YES I DID…. When are people going to learn that children are about love, and not for financial gain? Does anyone really think that a single mom can care for all of her 14, yes 14 children? I think not. She is placing dollar amounts on this. She is asking for $2 million to do an interview with Oprah.
Even though most people are not getting million dollar deals, the sad part is that people are using their kids for financial gain in other ways. First of all, it is selfish to have kids if you can not afford to support them yourself, secondly, it is sick to have more children than you can care for and most importantly it is wrong to try to or to get compensation in monetary gain to support children that you chose to bring into this world. This story is just yet, another example of a parent who cares more about the money than the children. I am in no way saying she does not love her children, but if she loved the six children she had before this birth she would not have attempted to have more. She is running a day care, an orphanage, whatever you want to call it. There is no way that she can give this many children the love and attention that children need. Some people have problems giving those important elements to two children much less 14.
Monday, February 2, 2009
Parents Who Have Successfully Fought Parental Alienation Syndrome
They completed a comprehensive parenting course such as Breakthrough Parenting, and stuck with it until they rated excellent in the knowledge, skills and methods taught. Their parenting skills became superior.
They were even-tempered, logical and kept their emotions under control. They never retaliated. A person who reacts in anger is proving the alienator's point that he or she is unstable.
They certainly thought of giving up but never did. No matter how awful the harassment got, they worried about leaving their daughter or son in that environment. They were driven to continue trying to get the court to understand the seriousness of the issues and to change primary custody to them.
They were willing and able to go to the financial expense of seeing it through.
They got help from a skilled family lawyer who had experience with parent alienation syndrome.
They became good at understanding how the courts work and the law as it applied to their case. In many cases, because of excessive expenses, parents even ended up as pro per (called pro se in some states) where they were representing themselves without a lawyer.
They had a case where a forensic evaluator made a strong statement about the alienation and recommend changing legal and primary custody to the alienated parent. Some parents had to go back to the evaluator to demonstrate that his or her earlier recommendations were not working.
They persevered in demonstrating that they were rational, reasonable, and had the best interest of the child at heart.
They provided the court with an appropriate parenting plan that showed how the child would be well taken care of in their care.
They understood the nature of the problem and focused on what to do about it, even though they and their children were being victimized. (Alienated parents who got caught up in "how terrible it all is" and spent time judging the situation, went under emotionally.)
They didn't live a victim's life.
They were proactive in seeking constructive action.
They avoided adding to the problem. One father expressed it like this: "I don't know how to make it better with the mother, but I do know how to make it worse." He was one of the most successful parents I met in fighting the PAS problem because he stayed in the role of the peacekeeper.
They kept a diary or journal of key events, describing what happened and when.
They documented the alienation with evidence that was admissible in court.
They always called or showed up to pick up their children, even if they knew that the children won't be there. This was often very painful, but then they could document that they tried, when the alienator alleged that this parent had no interest in the child.
They focused on enjoying their children's company and never talked to their children about their case. They always took the high road and never talked badly about the other parent to their children. They absolutely never showed a child any court orders or other sensitive documents. They didn't let the children overhear inappropriate conversations on the telephone.
They didn't violate court orders. They paid their child support on time and proved that they could live within the letter of the law.
They were truly decent, principled people. It was obvious that they loved their children. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Conclusion PAS cases are notoriously difficult to figure out, even for professionals in the field of divorce. Once the syndrome is discovered, it is even harder for the professionals to figure out what to do about it. It is important for alienated parents to be supported by compassionate people while going through this difficult time. PAS is never easy, but there is plenty of hope for those who take the high road and follow what worked for other PAS parents as shown above. Jayne Major, Ph.D.
Jerusalem and Jericho
"Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God is one LORD: {5} And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. {6} And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: {7} And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. {8} And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. {9} And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. " (Deu 6:4-9)
"Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself: I am the LORD. " (Lev 19:18)
she asked him......
He hung his head low and said “Any brand will do as long as it fits”
She says to him “Are you sure”
He replies “I just want clothes that fit.”
The reason she had asked him about clothes to start with is because she noticed that his clothes were ill fitting. Because his head was hung so low she knew there was more to the story.
He went on to explain that he had no part in the decisions as to the clothes he has available to him to wear, and he wished that he did.
This story is so sad, children of any age should have at least a partial say in what style of clothes, and brand of clothes they prefer. Clothing choices are a form of expression and help define who we are. Suppressing style is like suppressing artistic ability, talents, wishes and dreams. If they are snuffed out long enough a part of the person’s soul dies from lack of being able to express themselves.
There is no need for me to say who had this conversation, the guilty parties are reading here and will know without having to think about it.
You know who else heard this conversation? God did, and he see's all the wrong YOU are doing and saying. YOU are the ones who will have to answer God when the time comes about the things you say and do. Do you think he will actually let you into heaven given how you act, think and speak?