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<img src="http://cgi.boingdragon.com/count/boyzsite/0.gif" width="140" height="100">The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.comBlogger138125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-17817031296488769632009-06-10T01:08:00.000-07:002009-06-10T01:10:47.907-07:00If Jesus Were Born TodayThough I know that no matter what age GOD allowed His only begotten Son to be born in He would ultimately protect HIM for the cause of cross yet this really makes one stop and think about how our idea of protecting children can really go wrong...<br /><br /> <br /><br /> <br /><br />If Jesus Were Born Today<br /><br /><br />A frightening look at how Social Services would have 'interacted' with the Nativity<br /><br /> <br /> <br />Child advocates would remove the child from the custody of his mother when they discovered she was shacking with a guy (not the child’s father) in a barn. In most jurisdictions that would constitute child neglect. <br />Of course, Mary would have an underpaid court appointed attorney to represent her in the dependent-neglect proceeding, and Joseph would be out of luck once it was determined that paternity could not be established within a reasonable degree of medical certainty through blood or DNA testing(97% probability that Joe was the dad is sufficient, but absent divine intervention, that couldn’thappen, hmmm?). He would be excluded from juvenile court as a stranger to the proceeding and investigated for possible sexual deviance (all those oxen and donkeys around), and he would be told that he had no standing to object since he was not the natural father of the child and was not yet married to Mary (by their own admissions they had not yet consummated their union). <br />The Division of Children and Family Services would ask the court to order Mary to take parenting classes, and the Court would order that homemaker services be provided as well, since obviously Mary can’t keep house properly (the place where the DHS workers found the child was kept remarkably like a barn). Mary would be allowed to have one visit with Jesus per week at the Centers for Youth <br />and Families. The visit would be one hour long, and supervised by a therapist since Jesus would no doubt be put in therapeutic foster care to prevent psychological damage resulting from the horrible lack of civilization to which he had been exposed at such a tender age. <br />At the eighteen month dispositional hearing, the court would consider terminating parental rights because of Mary’s refusal to bring a paternity suit against Jesus’ true biological father (or even to identify him to the satisfaction of the Court). The Court would be appalled at the life choices Mary would have made: she would have completed her marriage to Joseph (that suspected sexual deviant) and had more children by him, which was obviously contrary to Jesus’ best interest. Since Mary and Joseph had fled the jurisdiction with Jesus once to escape encounters with the authorities, they would determine that Mary and Joe had nefarious plans to abscond with the Ward of the State to Egypt again, where they would possibly engage in dangerous and illegal activities with him. Parental rights would be terminated, and Jesus would be put up for adoption. <br />He would be adopted by the Herods, a well-connected and politically powerful family, who have been searching for just such a child as Jesus. Of course, Jesus will die in the custody of his adoptive family, because that’s all they wanted him for in the first place. Social services will NOT have intervened prior to his death because the state social workers could never imagine someone as highly placed as the Herods exploiting children or torturing them to death. The political ramifications for the Herods would have been too severe. In all likelihood, the social service agencies would cover up the death as one occurring from accident, and Herod’s good name will be preserved.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-90957022714270765722009-06-09T22:32:00.000-07:002009-06-09T22:42:31.490-07:00,,,,,,,,<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOMQ7mq-gldoCqZI3EfcD1neF-i1pRCzQzN_fbqKVMOL4wn6eC9P8MzLSjW6s03eX7XQ8oBfmix80g9akgB_2-8r6diWAvhKT-TSe6ja2Nmey4vvKxqehZqEBr047QY_E4t3HIlSk9JEoD/s1600-h/l_c32b49139b9e4e92ba52bdd51a6e5731.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 160px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5345569046886396402" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOMQ7mq-gldoCqZI3EfcD1neF-i1pRCzQzN_fbqKVMOL4wn6eC9P8MzLSjW6s03eX7XQ8oBfmix80g9akgB_2-8r6diWAvhKT-TSe6ja2Nmey4vvKxqehZqEBr047QY_E4t3HIlSk9JEoD/s320/l_c32b49139b9e4e92ba52bdd51a6e5731.jpg" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiygS_-nfmHV0uShCT9ZFOoqB1kHFo8hnFyCtRJ3igMSuzpcbMYPLtraZPQaDAtzQkoVv9dmS18jazeXdCGsI1yPPYeNU5WJO5fHUF-SuSJJLoOrjez8ul8ftyCOVFBIGB_tmgHApR8JaQ/s1600-h/10Jesushearthands_fotobkt.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 190px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5345567931702077538" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiygS_-nfmHV0uShCT9ZFOoqB1kHFo8hnFyCtRJ3igMSuzpcbMYPLtraZPQaDAtzQkoVv9dmS18jazeXdCGsI1yPPYeNU5WJO5fHUF-SuSJJLoOrjez8ul8ftyCOVFBIGB_tmgHApR8JaQ/s320/10Jesushearthands_fotobkt.jpg" /></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-EWzdreZJEzNvETbzP4BO2sug43t_cl0Vz4XBThfLLcZyDqsKFJ38zqtk5xHdbpmzIchU46orb4QNg_WnXwE-LyaYiHJTWtl76TIAQwwjzhlM-UvBbA3t49Qmhkx1tUarSIrv96VcLc2v/s1600-h/Eyes-1-1-1.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 205px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5345567928524669282" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-EWzdreZJEzNvETbzP4BO2sug43t_cl0Vz4XBThfLLcZyDqsKFJ38zqtk5xHdbpmzIchU46orb4QNg_WnXwE-LyaYiHJTWtl76TIAQwwjzhlM-UvBbA3t49Qmhkx1tUarSIrv96VcLc2v/s320/Eyes-1-1-1.jpg" /></a> </div>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-6448026469159348932009-06-07T14:22:00.000-07:002009-06-07T14:24:08.243-07:00Forgiveness for the sinner2 Corinthians 3:9-11 I wrote to you as I did to find out how far you would go in obeying me. When you forgive this man, I forgive him, too. And when I forgive him (for whatever is to be forgiven) I do so with Christs authority for your benifit so that satan will not outsmart us. For we are very familiar with his evil schemes.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-57297202157575594712009-06-04T21:03:00.002-07:002009-06-04T21:06:01.806-07:00Sociopaths are fundamentally differentndamentally different<br /><br />The truly scary thing about sociopaths is that they are fundamentally different from the rest of us. They do not want what we want. They do not value what we value.<br /><br />Normal human beings want affection, cooperation and achievement. We want to care about others and contribute to life. Sociopaths want power, control and sex, and they’ll destroy anyone and anything to get what they want.<br /><br />But sociopaths look like us and appear to act like us. That’s why they are so hard to identify. It’s also why people who have not experienced their manipulation up close and personal find it so difficult to believe us. The uninitiated—those lucky souls who have not been devastated by a sociopath—have yet to learn that there are people in the world for whom proclamations of love, truth and promises are nothing but tactics in a power game.<br /><br />Everything changes<br /><br />This is the bottom line: Dealing with a sociopath changes everything. Normal human courtesies do not apply. Social protocols do not apply. Rules do not apply. Contracts do not apply. Laws do not apply.<br /><br />If we find that we are interacting with a sociopath, the best thing we can do is get the person out of our lives. When that is not possible, we need to be on mental red alert at all times and understand that anything the person says may be a lie. We need to know that for the sociopath, we are not a friend, or a lover, or a relative, or a co-worker. For a sociopath, all we are is a target.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-78296702196856875092009-06-04T21:03:00.001-07:002009-06-04T21:03:39.560-07:00Important progress for an alienated grandparentAlienation goes much deeper than into just the hearts of parents as I'm sure everyone here knows. Extended family members feel the pain too and many child grow up and then grow old without ever knowing many extended family members..... .....pretty sickening in my opinion.<br />But here is some progress!!!! !!<br /><br />State Supreme Court grants grandmother visitation rights <br />By Elizabeth Dinan<br />edinan@seacoastonli ne.com<br />June 04, 2009 7:48 PM<br />PORTSMOUTH -- Kathi Dufton had to go to the Supreme Court for the right to see two of her granddaughters.<br /><br />"I want to hug them so badly," Dufton said Thursday, one day after the state's highest court ruled that keeping her apart from the girls who call her "grammy" would be "cruel and inhumane."<br /><br />"The Court should be lauded for ruling so quickly and decisively," said attorney Justin Nadeau, who successfully argued the case before the Supreme Court a month ago.<br /><br />According to the court's decision, Dufton, now a Newington mother of six and grandmother of eight, was 17 years old when she gave birth to a daughter and relinquished her parental rights by placing that daughter up for adoption.<br /><br />When that daughter, Vicki Shepard, was 26, she reunited with her mother and for the next 13 years they "were very close," the court found. They vacationed together, visited every other weekend and Dufton attended the birth of her daughter's two daughters.<br /><br />"It was like a hole in my heart had been filled," Dufton recalled.<br /><br />Shepard was later diagnosed with cancer and when she died in March of 2005, Dufton was at her side, the court noted in its decision.<br /><br />Two years later, the grandchildren' s father began denying Dufton visitation with the girls and she brought him to Superior Court. According to court records, the girls' father argued Dufton had no right to see them because she was not their natural grandmother. She gave up those rights when she placed Shepard for adoption, he argued.<br /><br />The Superior Court initially sided with Dufton, but the ruling was reversed in favor of the father by the same judge. Nadeau immediately offered to take the case on appeal to the Supreme Court, said Dufton.<br /><br />"He knew the situation, spent endless time on it and my only expense was for legal research," she said. "He's a remarkable young man and I love him to pieces."<br /><br />On June 3 the Supreme Court reversed the lower court's ruling, finding Dufton is indeed the girls' "natural grandmother" and entitled to visitation.<br /><br />"In a situation such as the present one, where the child's natural parent has died suddenly, the love and commitment of grandparents can be a source of security which lessons the trauma occasioned by the parent's death," the court wrote.<br /><br />The case now goes back to the superior court, which is expected to revise its order and mandate visits between grandmother and grandchildren.<br /><br />"It's going to be amazing," said Dufton, who has seen the girls only once in the past year.<br /><br />"This is a huge victory for grandchildren who deserve every bit of love and nurturing they can receive from giving and caring grandparents, such as Kathleen Dufton," said Nadeau. "It was an honor to represent her."<br /><br />http://www.seacoast online.com/ articles/ 20090604- NEWS-90604036The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-88176241941549377292009-05-27T23:41:00.000-07:002009-05-27T23:42:37.004-07:00A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction To Parental Alienation<a href="http://www.dadsdivorce.com/blog/Book-Review-A-Familys-Heartbreak-A-Parents-Introduction-To-Parental-Alienation.html"></a><br />by Rick Ortiz<br /><br />Editor, DadsDivorce.com<br /><br />The very nature of the form of abuse called Parental Alienation is one that has the power to turn every aspect of the lives it touches seemingly upside-down. Powered by subtle and not so subtle, conscious and unconscious implementation of mind-control and brainwashing, the alienating parent systematically turns a child against the "target" parent.<br /><br />In their book A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation, Michael Jeffries and Dr. Joel Davies present for alienated parents a case study that offers several perspectives on this upside-down world that the entire, fractured family begins inhabiting at the onset of this form of abuse.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Jeffries and Davies began their work together when Jeffries enlisted the psychologist's help in dealing with his own family issues following his divorce. In A Family's Heartbreak, Jeffries, a journalist by trade, has crafted a resource that reads with all of the real suspense that naturally goes along with the mounting tension of an alienator's gradual overtaking of their child's mind in an effort to use the child as a weapon against the other parent. <br /><br />One of the difficulties with describing or discussing or writing about parental alienation is the seemingly knee-jerk dismissals of the condition as nothing more than a misogynistic attack on women. Though all experts on the behavior agree that both men and women can exhibit alienating behavior. Jeffries deals with the problem of gender pronouns in the book's introduction, explaining that in his case the alienator was a woman, but making clear that this is not true in all cases. "I sincerely apologize to all alienated Moms if I make it appear that only Dads are victims of parental alienation," Jeffries writes. "I tried not to confuse [the reader] by using one set of pronouns to tell my family's story and another set of pronouns for generic references."<br /><br />The book itself is constructed of several storytelling elements that keep things fresh. Narrative sections tell the story of the divorce and the subsequent escalation of abuse delivered via the words and actions of Jeffries youngest son who bore the weight of the abuse and, as children will, played the role of "caretaker" for the emotionally crippled abusive parent. Dialogues similar to scripts allow Jeffries and Davies to "explain" the background and motives for this form of abuse to the reader as Jeffries asks the real questions that a target parent is puzzling over: "Why is my child acting this way? Do they really hate me? Why is my ex doing this? What will happen? What should I do?" The third story-telling element used by Jeffries is the open journals and letters to Adam (the child in the middle) where a target parent tries to make sense of what is happening all around him, and writes down the things that he wishes he could say to his child, but which would surely be spat back in his face if he dared try voice them.<br /><br />The story will resound in a particularly comforting and familiar way to a targeted parent as Jeffries describes the warning signs that he unwittingly dismissed during the marriage, but which resurfaced after his announcement that he was filing for divorce. Also explored are the particulars of increasingly dysfunctional relations within the fractured family, and the desperation of a parent powerless to intercede and stop the abuse. <br /><br />Through its use of client/professional dialogues, A Family's Hearbreak offers not only a case study, but professional insight into the psychology that leads a parent to cling unfairly to a child to supply their emotional stability at great peril to the child's own developing personality.<br /><br />One of the most difficult challenges facing the targeted parent is the difficulty in relying upon professionals such as psychologists, counselors, attorneys, guardians ad litem, and judges who truly do not understand PAS and who have not dedicated any serious studied to it. In a DadsDivorce inverview with Jeffries he admits that he was lucky to find a psychologist who truly understood the dynamics of PAS. <br /><br />Jeffries handles the difficult subject with a mastery that comes from not only his personal experience but also his professional understanding of how to make the incomprehensible as clear as it can be. Suggest this book to a friend who doesn't know where to go for help.<br /><br />For more information about this book, go to: http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com<br /><br /><br />Rick Ortiz is the editor of DadsDivorce.comThe Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-26221489007855039282009-05-27T19:23:00.000-07:002009-05-27T19:24:42.196-07:00Risk of Suicidality in Children Treated w Strattera (Dec 05)FDA recently alerted health care providers that treatment of children and adolescents with Strattera increases the risk of suicidal thinking. Strattera (atomoxetine) is approved to treat ADHD in patients 6 years and older.<br /><br />The increased risk of suicidal thinking was identified in a combined analysis of 12 placebo-controlled trials lasting six to eighteen weeks. This analysis showed that 0.4% of children treated with Strattera reported suicidal thinking compared to no reports in children treated with placebo. A similar analysis in adults treated with Straterra for either ADHD or major depressive disorder found no increased risk of suicidality with use of the drug.<br /><br />A new boxed warning will point out that children who are started on Strattera therapy should be observed closely for suicidal thinking or behaviors, clinical worsening, or unusual changes in behavior. This is especially important during the initial months of therapy or when the dose is changed.<br /><br />Families should contact their child's doctor if they observe any of these signs.<br />Eli Lilly, the drug's manufacturer, will also be developing a Patient Medication Guide to provide this information directly to patients and their caregivers.<br /><br /><object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/WNn7BHw2uVY&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/WNn7BHw2uVY&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-20173321747351405402009-05-27T19:20:00.002-07:002009-05-27T19:22:50.543-07:00Warning on Liver Injury from StratteraThis is from 2005, and <strong>REGULAR</strong> blood tests should be given to patients on Strattera to make sure the drug is not damaging ther patient. <br /><br />FDA is advising health professionals about a new warning for the drug Strattera, used to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder in adults and children.<br /><br />The drug's labeling is being updated with a bolded warning about the potential for severe liver injury in patients taking Strattera. The label warns that severe liver injury can progress to liver failure in a small percentage of patients. It cautions clinicians to discontinue the drug in patients who develop jaundice or laboratory evidence of liver injury. It also notes that the actual number of cases of severe liver injury from the drug is not known because of under-reporting.<br /><br />Strattera's manufacturer, Eli Lilly, has agreed to send a letter to physicians, alerting them to the new information. The company will also update the patient package insert to include information about the signs and symptoms of liver problems.<br /><br />If you learn of unexpected adverse events with Strattera, including liver damage, please report them, either directly to Eli Lilly, or to FDA's MedWatch program. <br /><br /><object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/wVAVo8e-kOY&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/wVAVo8e-kOY&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-35168709620638205192009-05-27T19:14:00.000-07:002009-05-27T19:18:43.136-07:00Dangers of ADHD Drugs<object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/mwPSyZMROvA&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/mwPSyZMROvA&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object><br /><br />Patients with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder(ADHD) who are taking stimulant drugs such as Adderall (amphetamine-dextroamphetamine), Ritalin (methylphenidate) and Strattera (atomoxetine hydrochloride) will soon be given a Patient Medication Guide each time the prescription is filled.<br /><br />The medication guide will warn that there have been reports of sudden death in children and adolescents with pre-existing structural cardiac abnormalities or other serious heart problems who were taking stimulant drugs to treat their ADHD. Sudden death, stroke and MI have also been reported in adults with underlying risk factors for these events who took ADHD drugs.<br /><br />The causative role of the stimulants is not clear because pre-existing heart problems themselves carry an increased risk of sudden death. Nevertheless, patients with known serious cardiac problems should generally not use stimulant drugs.<br /><br />The medication guide will also warn about a slight increased risk for drug-related psychiatric adverse events, such as hearing voices, paranoia or mania, even in patients who did not have previous psychiatric problems.<br /><br />FDA recommends that patients who may be treated with these drugs work with their health care provider to develop a treatment plan that includes a careful health and family history, and an evaluation of current health status, especially for cardiovascular and psychiatric conditions. Patients should contact a doctor promptly if symptoms develop that are suggestive of heart disease, or of new or worsening psychiatric problems.<br /><br />ADHD Drugs:<br /><br />• Adderall (mixed salts of a single entity amphetamine product) Tablets<br />• Adderall XR (mixed salts of a single entity amphetamine product)<br />• Concerta (methylphenidate hydrochloride) Extended-Release Tablets<br />• Daytrana (methylphenidate) Transdermal System<br />• Desoxyn (methamphetamine HCl) Tablets<br />• Dexedrine (dextroamphetamine sulfate) Spansule Capsules and Tablets<br />• Focalin (dexmethylphenidate hydrochloride) Tablets<br />• Focalin XR (dexmethylphenidate hydrochloride)<br />• Metadate CD(methylphenidate hydrochloride)<br />• Methylin (methylphenidate hydrochloride) Oral Solution<br />• Methylin (methylphenidate hydrochloride) Chewable Tablets<br />• Ritalin (methylphenidate hydrochloride) Tablets<br />• Ritalin SR (methylphenidate hydrochloride) Sustained-Release Tablets<br />• Ritalin LA (methylphenidate hydrochloride) Extended-Release Capsules<br />• Strattera (atomoxetine HCl) Capsules<br /><br /><object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/-IAaAHd7cGE&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/-IAaAHd7cGE&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-11893285328622351572009-05-27T18:31:00.000-07:002009-05-27T18:54:38.354-07:00The ADHD FraudDr. Fred Baughman discusses how ADD and ADHD are subjective diseases and have no scientific evidence to prove a child has ADD or ADHD.<br /><br />Biography:<br />Fred A. Baughman Jr., MD has been an adult & child neurologist, in private practice, for 35 years. Making "disease" (real diseases--epilepsy, brain tumor, multiple sclerosis, etc.) or "no disease" (emotional, psychological, psychiatric) diagnoses daily, he has discovered and described real, bona fide diseases.<br />It is this particular medical and scientific background that has led him to view the "epidemic" of one particular "disease"--Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)--with increasing alarm. Dr. Baughman describes this himself. Referring to psychiatry, he says:<br />"They made a list of the most common symptoms of emotional discomfiture of children; those which bother teachers and parents most, and in a stroke that could not be more devoid of science or Hippocratic motive--termed them a 'disease.' Twenty five years of research, not deserving of the term 'research.,' has failed to validate ADD/ADHD as a disease. Tragically--the "epidemic" having grown from 500 thousand in 1985 to between 5 and 7 million today--this remains the state of the 'science' of ADHD."<br />In addition to scientific articles that have appeared in leading national and international medical journals, Dr. Baughman has testified for victimized parents and children in ADHD/Ritalin legal cases, writes for the print media and appears on talk radio shows, always making the point that ADHD is fraudulent--a creation of the psychiatric-pharmaceutical cartel, without which they would have nothing to prescribe their dangerous, addictive, Schedule II, stimulants for--namely, Ritalin (methylphenindate), Dexedrine (dextro-amphetamine), Adderall (mixed dextro- and levo-amphetamine) and, Gradumet, and Desoxyn (both of which are methamphetamine, 'speed,' 'ice').<br />The entire country, including all 5-7 million with the ADHD diagnosis today, have been deceived and victimized; deprived of their informed consent rights and drugged--for profit! It must be stopped. Now!<br /><br /><object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/Cc-oR5FJyaI&hl=en&fs=1"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/Cc-oR5FJyaI&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object><br /><br /><object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/hvpGFnJ6T94&hl=en&fs=1"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/hvpGFnJ6T94&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object><br /><br /><object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/Ev73lO-Nl_I&hl=en&fs=1"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/Ev73lO-Nl_I&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object><br /><br />Click on the links to listen to rest of the series.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-56587009346000750532009-05-27T17:08:00.000-07:002009-05-27T17:13:21.050-07:00AdjustingIf you have not done so, please click on the link in the post below and read some of the stories. Even after all this time, and I know I have said this before, but I will say it again, every time I hear these stories it makes my blood boil, and I still find myself being shocked. <br />When are alienators going to understand that the things they are doing are harmful to their children? I still do understand why some people choose to do the things they do, it is mostly out of love, but what is loving in teaching a child to hate the other parent? Call it love, call it selfishness, either way, there is no excuse for destroying your own child, pure and simple it is CHILD ABUSE. <br />The other day my husband decided to bring home a puppy. Mind you I already have one dog; he is my longtime companion shih-Tzu. He was a rescue baby, the human people in his life before coming to live with us kicked him, broke his back and a couple of ribs. They put him outside in the rain and mud, and fed him cat food. When he was found, his hair was matted to his skin and it took weeks to get him back to good health. When he first came to live with us, he was scared of us, because humans had done him so wrong. He would go under the bed or a table and sit under it hoping to go UN noticed. He trusted no one, and really who could have blamed him for the abuse that he suffered for so long. We gave him love, care and let him know that he was safe. It took some time for him to come to trust us but all these years later he could not be a happier little guy. <br />Back to the new puppy, it was almost like we had forgotten all the work we did to ensure a new puppy that things were going to be OK where it is now. So this little girl, who is a Heinz 57, but a really cute little mix puppy, comes into our home on Sunday. At first our older dog was not sure about the new addition, and I admit, I was a little unsure about the decision as well. But a few days later I am starting to understand and see things that had been put to the back of my mind. You see, we tend to go with what is comfortable; change is hard on us all but sometimes change is for the best. <br />Had we not accepted the puppy into our family, who knows where she would end up, in fact if her siblings do not find homes this week they will be in a shelter where their chances of living a long life are nil. So taking the little girl out of a bad situation for her was a good thing. But she had to adjust as well. The first couple of nights were pretty rough. First she had to learn about her new home, and our older dog had to learn to share his space, love and attention. <br />Even though some of us struggle with not having our kids with us, and sometimes are kids have been programmed to hate, talk back, and act out, they can adjust and change. All they need is some love, attention, and a positive role model. Yes it will take time, take some counseling, and patients on our part as adults, but it can be done. <br />Be persistent with your goals to prove that your children are being programmed, programming is abuse. And when you get them home, and I know a lot of you will, treat them with love like you would when you bring a new puppy home. It takes adjusting on all parties parts, but things can and will change.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-1700367181564580222009-05-27T13:44:00.001-07:002009-05-27T13:55:06.096-07:00Success Stories in Overcoming Severe Alienation<a href="http://www.parentalalienation.com/success/stories_1.html"></a><br /><br />I found this page, and wanted to share it with you, my readers. It gives home and inspiration to those of us who are fighting with our lives just to be a part of our childrens lives, yet are being blocked out by alienators. <br /><br />Read all of the stories, one of them involves a grandmother who took over... The sad reality is, that is happening more and more. Alienation is not just limited to parent - parent, grandparents are taking over our kids and alienating them too, when they do that, they are not only abusing the children, they are abusing the chidren they raised as well by manipulating their children.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-15816570487602640682009-05-27T13:40:00.000-07:002009-05-27T13:41:59.510-07:00Parental Alienation (P.A.) is becoming recognized by society as a form of abuse.<a href="http://www.pittsburghlive.com/x/dailycourier/letters/s_625877.html"></a><br />Parental Alienation (P.A.) is becoming recognized by society as a form of abuse. <br /><br /><strong>P.A. involves the mental manipulation of children and special-needs adults, which can result in the destruction of a long and warm relationship once shared with a parent. P.A. is a behavior typically undertaken by a parent or trusted adult(s) and is most prevalent in a divorce or separation. It deprives children and special-needs adults of their right to be loved by and show love for both of their parents and makes them feel they must choose between the people they love.</strong><br />Chronological age is not the determinant in abuse, as a special-needs adult may have the mental age of a child. P.A. is emotional and mental abuse.<br /><br />If more people knew about how P.A. works, and how damaging these behaviors are to children and adults, then more help would be available to these victims. Much of the public as well as many professionals are unaware of the problem and the harm it causes.<br /><br />To learn more about this behavior, visit paawareness.org.<br /><br />Sue Dutkovic Shumar<br /><br />JohnstownThe Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-41910866086971112902009-05-27T00:02:00.000-07:002009-05-27T00:06:38.483-07:00Toxic personalities1. Manipulative Mary: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.<br /><br />Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.<br /><br />2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."<br /><br />Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.<br /><br />3. Debbie Downers: These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.<br /><br />Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.<br /><br />4. Judgmental Jims: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'. If you like someone's eclectic taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.<br /><br />Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.<br /><br />5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.<br /><br />Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.<br /><br />6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.<br /><br />Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.<br /><br />7. Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.<br /><br />Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.<br /><br />8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.<br /><br />Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.<br /><br />All of these personalities have several things in common. <br />1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. <br />3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.<br /><br />Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. If you can, avoid spending mucho time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel a lot happier. Have you encountered these personalities? What have you done? Any personalities you would add?<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />If you can, do get and read a book called getting rid of your PDI, <br /><br />http://www.amazon. com/Goodbye- Your-Personality -Disordered- Individuals/ dp/0757306152 <br /><br />it has a rather interesting conclusion and worth the 15 bucks of personal relief that it gives in understanding and dealing with something that is unavoidable. Family courts do not solve these problems with people, they exarcebate them by forcing people to interact with them. Also a recommended book by Steven Baskerville, ( a little heavy reading) called Taken into custody. These should provide groundwork for trying to understand the situation many find themselves in. With no solutions.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-19072552883051706452009-05-20T03:35:00.000-07:002009-05-20T03:36:18.011-07:00"God Hates a Lying Tongue" sermon by Pastor Steven Anderson<object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/rEKUcBo_vq8&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/rEKUcBo_vq8&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-75446847908588901312009-05-19T20:54:00.000-07:002009-05-19T20:55:06.875-07:00An open plea to all alienators, even if you think you are not one, you need to read this.Alienation can come in many forms, it can be in your jokes, or it can be blatant. You may not even think you are alienating, but are you? When our children are small the pediatrician talks to us about proper nutrition, we are all very well aware that a child must have a balanced diet in order to grow up healthy, but children also need both parents to grow up healthy. <br /><br />Children only know love from the time they are born, have you ever said something about someone, perhaps the other parent, in front of or to your child? Children do not know how to react as adults do, but they still have feelings. When you make a comment or a joke about the other parent in a child hearing space, they do hear. If you say things like that all the time, they learn to think like you, because they look up to you and look to you for their learning and their care. What happens over time with your comments and jokes is you are brainwashing your child. <br /><br />To move a step forward, if you were the parent without custody, and you wanted your time with your child and were denied, how would you feel? How would you, when you had the chance explain to your child why you had not spent time with them? Now honestly, you must love and want your children if you are the custodial parent, but do you not think their other parent feels the same way? <br /><br />Even if you are not fond of your x-partner you should think about if the shoe were on the other foot. Because someday, that shoe may be on the other foot. If not from you loosing custody for any amount of reasons, but because in the process of alienating your children from their other parent, you actually end up alienating your children from yourself. You could very well find yourself later in life not knowing what your grown children are doing, and even worse, you may never get to know grandchildren that you may have. <br /><br />Instead of thinking in the “NOW” perhaps if you are an alienator, or potential alienator, you should think into the future. You can not predict what the future will bring, but maybe you should play around with a few scenarios, the ones you really do not want to think about but should. <br /><br />Even after reading this blog post, if you do not take the time to think about your words and your actions, I hope that you file this away in your mind, and later in the years, after the kids are grown and gone from the next think about how your life is then, and think about this post. Will you be the lonely parent who has nothing more than a memory of the children they once wanted all for themselves? Or will you be the parent who worked beyond your own needs, wants and selfishness to make your kids more healthy and happy?The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-29785085267618822902009-04-26T14:30:00.000-07:002009-04-26T15:35:54.200-07:00Purging into Spring...<span style="color:#ff99ff;">As mentioned before, spring is here, soon to be summer. I am sure those hot days will slip in there before we know it. To those of you who are still experiencing cold weather, I am sorry to sound so enthusiastic about our weather here. But for me, seeing the tree’s back to life and the bounty of plants we are growing is witness to God’s blessings.<br />Several weeks ago we started some plants, in reality; it was a huge mess within the confines of our home, turned into beauty just a few weeks later on the outside. Seeing new life come into our landscape is addicting, and planning just where to put all these plants has been a lot of fun as well.<br />Today the sun is out in full force, and I am sure the temperatures are tethering in the 80’s somewhere, dangerously close to the 90’s. One can not help but want to be out in the sunshine and watch as almost hour by hour, the plants are growing and sprouting up out of the ground. Seeing how determined the plants are to grow and thrive, gives me the inspiration to do the same, as silly as that may seem that one would get inspiration from foliage it really does offer support, at least to me.<br />Over the last several years we have worked each spring and summer to make this piece of land that was nothing more than rolling hills of weed patches into something more ascetically pleasing to the eye. In March of 2001 we officially moved onto this land. That first year was spent more or less indoors. The years following have been spent working on the outside part. We are nowhere near complete with any of it, but it does look better than it did. Our goals are still far away, but as they say, all good things come to those who wait.<br />One of the goals this spring is to purge. You see, by ridding our lives of clutter, we become better people and help others in the process. One the main reasons that many people need to purge is that they have more than they really need, and in the process their willingness to purge may help someone else out. Our homes may not be the only space that many of us need to purge. The fact is, many of us are carrying around excess baggage in our personal lives that we need to learn to purge in order to become better people.<br />So today I challenge each person who reads this blog to purge some of those pent up feelings you have, and turn them into something more worthwhile. If you have areas of your life that need improving on, work on it, if you are holding things inside, get them out, tell the person you are holding things against what it is that bothers you, and work on improving those feelings even if the person you hold things against does not see things your way. But by never purging those true feelings to someone, they will never know why you stand where you stand and there will always be a riff. Lets not only spring clean our houses we live in but our hearts and souls as well.</span>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-39298430405156686692009-04-22T22:12:00.000-07:002009-04-22T22:14:46.641-07:00There is 1 day left to Awareness Day!Fourth Annual Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting Awareness Day coming up on April 25, 2009<br /> To see all the events planned go to: <a href="http://www.paawarenessday.org/">http://www.paawarenessday.org/</a>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-5637855888334812582009-04-21T08:14:00.000-07:002009-04-21T08:15:06.558-07:00PAS / HAP for Dummies!<object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/CI-j3gke9T0&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/CI-j3gke9T0&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-57407935661454846932009-04-21T07:15:00.001-07:002009-04-21T07:17:55.169-07:00April 21, 209 update<span style="color:#ff0000;">It has been a while since I have had the time to sit down and write my own content, for which I apologize. I have been getting emails from so many of you wanting updates on what all is happening and if I have not responded to you directly please do not take it personally, it is just a busy time of the year. </span><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;"><br />The “busy” has exhausted me. As we all know spring is here and that means Spring Cleaning and getting the garden started, those things along with going to meetings, the traveling I have had to do to be at meetings, and all the prep work for the court cases still ahead of us has made me wish that the days were longer than they are. But what I really need is a day at the spa!<br /><br />One would think by now I would have it all together, but the thing is, each new stone I turn, there is new information that I have to put together. It seems almost a never ending task putting the things together that have surfaced over the past few months. Don’t be deceived by my words, there is no complaining here, only what seems to be a never ending treasure trove of viable content that warrants emotions that spin my head like a roller coaster. Not that any of the viable information should have come as any surprise, but some of still spins my head, even though I knew it was out there, just getting the concrete proof that it was is taxing.<br /><br />The frustrations that led me to open the site, and to blog about it are slowly but surely dissolving, no those emotions are not going away, they are evolving. The evolution of what to some seemed like someone who was out of her mind has turned out to be some of the best therapy, and a tool that has opened eyes that were once closed.<br /><br />So do I still feel the way I felt when I started all of this? The answer is clearly YES!!! Before, information was held or not talked about because of lies and deceit, however when those lies were exposed, the tables started to turn. It almost makes you want to say “How do you like me now?” There is no need for you to answer that, it’s just a figure of expression.<br /><br />Naturally I feel that we should have been in court months ago, but as I stated above the new information that comes in has to be put together, remember Rome was not built overnight. Much like the freemasons I was left with my compass and square as my only tools. So where do we stand today? The first two of many petitions have been filed and served, we are now waiting on the formal response to be filed with the courts, at which time those motions will be set for trial.<br /><br />I talked some time ago in this blog about the Family Access Act, which is one of the two motions that have been filed. If you missed the posting about the Family Access motion or you are not aware of what it is I will give a brief summery of it.<br /><br />The Family access motion in some states is actually a civil suit. More or less what it is for is when a non custodial parent is denied his or her visitation rights by the custodial parent. At the time the motion is seen by the judge the non custodial parent’s legal representation will provide to the judge the affidavits that the non custodial parent reported to the local law enforcement each time their rights were violated, along with providing to the judge the original order of decree showing that those periods were in fact valid periods of visitation.<br /><br />At the time of the hearing in front of the judge the custodial parent must convince the judge as to his or her own actions to avoid the repercussions that can result from their actions. If found guilty the custodial parent is held in contempt of a court order and can face such penalties as:<br /><br />* Have to compensate the non custodial parent with the time lost with the children. (This is the less evasiveof the repercussions)<br />*The violator can be court ordered to enter into counseling.<br />*The violator can be held financially responsible to pay for counseling for the children as well as the non custodial parent in order to reunify a relationship between the child(ren) and the non-custodial parent.<br />*The violator can be ordered to post a cash bond to ensure that they will no longer violate the court order.<br />*The violator can be fined $500 for their actions.<br />*The violator if found guilty can be held financially responsible for paying for the legal fee’s paid by the petitioner in order to bring the motion to court.<br /><br />Moving on to the second motion filed, it is the motion to modify the latest decree entered into the courts. More or less, asking that custody be changed from him, over to me. Once the motion was served (which it was served on April 8, 2009) Roger has 30 days in order to have legal representation and to file his response. This is where all that work comes in, during this time I had to check and recheck all the information that I have gathered and those items have to be entered into evidence. Then it’s another waiting game. That is where we are today.<br /><br />I am confident with the documents and affidavits that have been put together by not only my lawyer and me but by the angels who have stepped up to help me in this. As I stated before I am not going to go into a lot of details as to the findings, and I am not sure that I ever will, that is a decision I will ponder more on at a later date, due to the fact that many items that have surfaced are of the criminal nature (not criminal of myself, but by others directly related to this case) and actually warrant the other motions I talked about earlier. There is at least two if not more than two civil suits that can filed. I will state this however, you can not make a mountain of a molehill, but if you have a lot of molehills, they collectively can become a mountain.<br /><br />Once again I am sorry that I have not been available more to keep everyone up to date with what has been going on but your concerns and prays are much appreciated. I ask that you continue to keep the boys and everyone involved in this case on your prayer lists as there is power in prayer and unity. I am hoping that now that the bulk of the work part is over that I will be able to have the time once again to concentrate more on PAS because DC Family Fest 2009 will be here before we know it!</span><br /></span>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-36958655579202336782009-04-13T16:42:00.000-07:002009-04-13T17:09:39.341-07:00New Page added to the main siteI have added a new page to the main site. I have had a lot of email asking me for updates, so we now have a new update page. <a href="http://www.justiceforjustinandjeramygolden.com/">http://www.justiceforjustinandjeramygolden.com</a><br />I know a lot of you have been praying, and we encourage you to keep doing so. Please check with the main site for updates as this case progresses.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-32650121201105927542009-04-11T13:24:00.000-07:002009-04-11T13:26:51.916-07:00Looking back.....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgximGn84EA6e_Jsz6mTHm29mjHg8y1ar_dtaCdXduJRH_o7ikj_UUsOCEhblE2RrhhadBtfFmiQDaClyHoce1ibcg3ofeTO5ZdBGUTTmuW3RDMck4mHfXEkoSGweXmrc1j76jrREVBiKZM/s1600-h/Scanned+020.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 218px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgximGn84EA6e_Jsz6mTHm29mjHg8y1ar_dtaCdXduJRH_o7ikj_UUsOCEhblE2RrhhadBtfFmiQDaClyHoce1ibcg3ofeTO5ZdBGUTTmuW3RDMck4mHfXEkoSGweXmrc1j76jrREVBiKZM/s320/Scanned+020.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5323532844955275122" /></a>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-46689800333600113522009-03-29T03:44:00.000-07:002009-03-29T04:34:40.834-07:00Warning Signs of Parental AlienationWarning Signs of Parental Alienation<br />How can you tell if your ex is attempting to alienate your child? Here are some warning symptoms psychologists have observed in children suffering from parental alienation syndrome, according to Dr. Douglas Darnall, Ph.D:<br /><br />Giving a child a choice as to whether or not to visit with the other parent. <br /><br />Telling the child details about the marital relationship or reasons for the divorce. <br /><br />Refusing to acknowledge that the child has property and may want to transport possessions between residences. <br /><br />Resisting or refusing to cooperate by not allowing the other parent access to school or medical records and schedules of extracurricular activities. <br /><br />One parent blaming the other parent for financial problems, breaking up the family, changes in lifestyle, or having a girlfriend or boyfriend. <br /><br />Refusing to be flexible with the visitation schedule in order to respond to the child's needs, or scheduling the child in so many activities that the other parent is never given the time to visit. <br /><br />Assuming that if a parent has been physically abusive with the other parent, it follows that the parent will assault the child. This assumption is not always true. <br />Asking the child to choose one parent over the other. <br /><br />The alienating parent encouraging any natural anger the child has toward the other parent. <br /><br />A parent or stepparent suggesting changing the child's name or having the stepparent adopt the child. <br /><br />When the child cannot give reasons for being angry towards a parent or gives reasons that are vague and without any details. <br /><br />Using a child to spy or covertly gather information for the parent's own use. <br />Arranging temptations that interfere with the other parent's visitation. <br /><br />Reacting with hurt or sadness to a child having a good time with the other parent. <br />Asking the child about the other parent's personal life. <br /><br />Physically or psychologically rescuing a child when there is no threat to their safety. <br /><br />Making demands on the other parent that are contrary to court orders. <br /><br />Listening in on the child's phone conversation with the other parent.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-40247684678660805452009-03-29T03:35:00.000-07:002009-03-29T03:44:38.481-07:00How to deal with 'toxic' parents<a href="http://www.thestar.com/article/602350"></a><br />Click on the link above to read the article in full. Below is just a snip of the contents. <br /><br />"The bottom line is that to turn a child against a parent is to turn a child against himself."<br /><br />Two months ago, a Toronto judge <strong>stripped a mother of custody of her three daughters after a decade-long campaign to keep the kids from their father.</strong> She was ordered to pick up the tab for a U.S. program aimed at helping the girls, ages 9 to 14, reconnect with their dad.The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4644803954627865192.post-70724863205104367432009-03-29T03:25:00.000-07:002009-03-29T03:35:19.132-07:00The family Pandora's Box<a href="http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20090324.wLfamilyalienation0324/BNStory/lifeFamily/home?cid=al_gam_mostemail"></a><br />Click on the link above to read tne entire story. Below is just a snip of what it entails. <br /><br />Even though Mr. Rabiega, now 33, had witnessed ugly behaviour by his father toward his mother and knew his dad to be an erratic alcoholic, it wasn't until he sought counselling for personal problems in his early 20s that his past snapped into focus: He had been the victim of parental alienation syndrome - <strong>his father had systematically turned him against his mother.</strong>The Boys MOM!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12581451421879908929noreply@blogger.com0