Another PAS Story Part #2

Then a twist of fate come in to play. It was time for a school break and the child was to visit parent “A”. When it come time to exchange custody of the child parent “A” was contacted by a parent of parent “B” (this being the child’s grandparent) The child’s grandparent stated that they were in the area and would get the child and transport the child from the child’s home, to parent “A”. This sounds like a pretty good deal right? This means that parent “A” does not have to drive the over four hour drive one way and then return another over four hours back home. The next few sets of events are terrifying for any parent.
The time come when parent “A” was to be getting the child from the grandparent. The grandparent stated they wanted to spend a little time with the child and it was agreed that parent “A” would give up a day with the child so that the grandparent could enjoy some time as well. You see the grandparent lived in the same area as parent “A”, so the grandparent did not get to see the child often either. So it did not seem like a huge deal at the time to allow the grandparent to share in some of the visitation time.
An entire week rolled around and the child was not delivered by the grandparent to parent “A”, but rather the parent of parent “A”. This is when the twist of fate took hold. The child was refusing to come to parent “A”’s home. This was strange and parent “A” knew that something was wrong. Parent “A”’s parent who had the child by this time explains that there is trouble at the child’s home. It was about the same time this information was coming forth that parent “A” got a phone call from parent “B”’s parent.
Grandparent “B” wanted parent “A” to sign custody of the child over to them. Now WHY would this be done? Grandparent “B” explained that parent “B” was having some problems at home, what those problems were, grandparent “B” would not be forthcoming with, grandparent “B” tried to play it as a marital problem. This would NOT be the case.
Parent “A” went to the home of grandparent “A” to get the story. Come to find out parent “B” was in a heap of trouble. Parent “B” did have marital problems but the extend of it was way more than what had been explained.
Remember parent “A” seeing a look in parent “B”’s eyes that couldn’t be distinguished? I am sure you have guessed by now, that look was the look of someone on drugs, eyes that looked like a deer caught in headlights.
Apparently as the story unraveled, it become known that parent “B” had left the current spouse taking with them only the child from the first marriage. Parent “B” moved right into another home with another person, as well as not sending the child to school. So what had happened on the day that visitation was to start was truancy officers along with CPS had located parent “B”. Grandparent “B” was in the area and was able to tell truancy officers and CPS that they would take control of the child and get parent “B” some help to keep the child from being taken into state care.
Trying to hold true to their word was the reason that grandparent “B” was putting pressure on parent “A” to sign custody over. Parent “A” REFUSED. In the meantime grandparent “B” had taken parent “B” to a drug rehab, but referred to it as a safe haven for abused persons. It was not a safe house, it was a drug rehab. Where grandparent “B” slipped was when they stated the name of the facility. Anyone in the area knows what the facility is, it is not a secret, they had their name plastered on billboards with the purpose of their services.
Parent “A” did what any good parent should do, parent “A” took the child from grandparent “A” and refused to hand the child over to grandparent “B”. When parent “A” took the child from grandparent “A” the child only had one change of clothes and nothing more. Parent “A” immediately went out and purchased a wardrobe of clothing, and school supplies. The child had missed 39 days of the school year and would by default fail the school year because of the days missed. In order to try and correct the situation parent “A” enlisted the help of a private school. If the child could do the school work and show that they could pass the child would be allowed to pass on to the next grade instead of repeating the grade the next school year. So the child was enrolled in the private school for the remainder of the year.
While living with parent “A” the child did very well. Each day was the same as the last for the exception of weekends. During the school week each day the child awoke, went through a routine to prepare for school. At the end of each school day the child did their homework, ate dinner, performed a few chores and had the rest of the evening at leisure. The weekends were for fun. During that time the child would talk to parent “B” a few times a week via a phone call from the rehab unit.
The child made friends, took part in field trips where parent “A”’s spouse chaperoned in parent “A”’s absence. The child was asked to create a costume as extra credit for a class in which step parent “A” and the child constructed from scratch one of the best costumes, gaining the child all the points available for the extra credit. The child wore a smile of pride when arriving to school with the awesome costume on. The child received many comments on how neat his costume was, everyone took notice to the details in the costume.
During this time grandparent “B” continually tried to get the child back. Grandparent “B” tried to have papers served on parent “A”, it did no good. You see, the way the papers were written in the divorce some years back the parents shared both legal and joint physical custody. This meant that parent “A” had every right to have the child. Grandparent “B” took the papers to the sheriff’s department only to be told that the office would NOT serve the papers. Grandparent “B” would drive past parent “A”’s home in a stalking manner. Parent “A” set up camera’s to document the stalking.

Parent “B” completed the rehab program and was due to be released, at this time arrangements were afforded for the child to attend the ceremony of release. Ideally, it was not something that parent “A” wanted the child to take part in or see, but because the child wanted to take part in the ceremony and it was important to parent “B”, parent “A” allowed the participation. This is where things started to turn again.