Another PAS story part #1

I am publishing this story in pieces because it is very long, but is a good read.

For years now I have been watching another PAS situation unfold. I had to share this story because it does show another side of PAS.
One child was born of the marriage between parent “A” and parent “B”. For the purpose of this story parent “A” is the alienated parent and parent “B” is the alienator.
While still in the child’s toddler stage parent “B” left parent “A” a total of three times. The first two times the parents tried to work things out. Parent “A” come home one day from working to an empty house, this would be the final straw in the marriage. Parent “B” had moved out while parent “A” was at work taking everything in the house including parent “A”’s clothing. Parent “A” had nothing and was forced to move home where their roots began to try and restart their life. Parent “A” was left with a stack of bills, and a checkbook was missing.
Like all people trying to put the pieces of their life back together parent “A” had to find out just where they were as far as the bank account went and what bills were paid and which bills were not paid. By the time Parent “A” was aware that they were left with nothing and called the bank the account was in complete disorder already as well. Parent “A” did the right thing and made good on the checks that were written on the account and put a stop on the account. This as it would turn out would be a good thing as over the next few weeks several checks were presented to the bank that were written to a casino. Parent “B” not only left parent “A” with nothing to their name, they also were living large on parent “A”’s checkbook. To add another twist to the story, parent “A” found out that when parent “B” had left, they had not only just moved out, but moved directly in with another person.
The next step parent “A” did was to file for divorce, as well as bankrupt. Parent “A” had started to receive letters that none of the bills were paid for a period of a couple of months. The sad reality is that this happens all the time in these types of situations.
Moving forward, parent “A” had always processed a strong work ethic and part of the profession that parent “A” worked in required a lot of travel. Whereas parent “B” had held minimal jobs here and there over the period of the relationship, as well as was unemployed for a large portion of the relationship. Because of parent “A”’s travel the help of parent “A”’s parent was essential to help orchestrate the arrangements in exchanging custody for visitation times. The arrangement was that the meetings to exchange the child were to be done at a halfway point between each parents homes, which meant that each parent would have to drive a little over two hours one way to meet.
Each time that it come time to exchange the child parent “B” would have some excuse as to why they could not meet halfway, and each time parent “A” was enticed with having to take on more and more of the total trip until it got to a point where parent “A” was doing the entire trip, traveling all the way to parent “B”’s town and back to their own town. Parent “A” endured the trips in order to have their special time with the child. Over the years parent “B” started to make excuses why the child could not come to visit until the visits become only a few times a year.
Remember when I said that parent “B” had moved in with someone else? Parent “B” married this person not long after the divorce was final with parent “A”, and it was not much longer when parent “B” had another child.
It was about the time that this new child come into the world that some of the details started to emerge about the situation parent “B” and the first child were in. Parent “A” started to take some notice that when they would call to talk to the child that a lot of times parent “B” was not there, and other times when parent “B” was there, speech was slurred a lot and things just did not add up.
Parent “B” never was one to ask the child things about the home life, but things did start to emerge. If you just listen, children tell you more than they think they are telling. One day the child was talking about the new baby and it slipped out that parent “B” had been away and everyone had to help take care of the new baby. Where did parent “B” go away to? The child of its own free will explained that parent “B had to visit the sanitarium. It was then time to ask some questions. Come to find out, this was a regular trend that was happening in parent “B”’s life. It was not an isolated incident that could be swept up under the rug and tossed away as a period of depression; these visits had become a regular way of life. Needless to say parent “A” was quite shocked about the events that were being laid into the spectrum.
Parent “A” sought out a legal team to represent them. We all hear of corruption in PAS right? Well, this story is no different. Months and months flew by, parent “A” was constantly asking for a day in court, and paying payments to the legal team. Parent “A”’s day in court never came. Having paid the legal team thousands of dollars, and getting nowhere parent “A” had to drop the legal team and seek out another team and start paying again.
Christmas time rolled around during this time and parent “A” exercised the rights to have the child for the Holiday’s. This Christmas was like no other. The entire Christmas break the phone at parent “A”’s house constantly rang, if there was no answer then the cell phone would start ringing non stop. It was parent “B” needing to talk to the child. Each and every phone call become worse than the last. Parent “B” was experiencing some troubles at home and was calling the child to cry on the child’s shoulder, including the child in intimate details that no child should know about. The entire visit was riddled with phone calls making parent “A”’s visit miserable.
Finally when the visit was over parent “A” was transporting the child to meet parent “B”. Parent “B” had tried to make parent “A” drive the entire trip but parent “A” laid it out in no uncertain terms that they would NOT drive the entire way, parent “A” had driven the entire trip to retrieve the child when the break began and it just was not feasible to do it again. This forced parent “B” to drive some, but not even half of the trip. At the meeting point to exchange custody again parent “A” noticed a strange look in parent “B”’s eyes that they just could not put a finger on. Parent “B” then asks parent “A” for some money. Parent “A” declined. Custody was exchanged and each parent went their own way.