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Thursday, November 20, 2008

Child support and bribing please....

About the child support, it has been said that I do not pay. It comes out of my check weekly, and when I was self employed it was drafted from my check account weekly. If you are not getting the support you need to work with Jefferson City to find out where the money is. You know this has happened to you before. My check stubs and bank accounts tell no lies.
As far as clothes go, I made it a point to purchase everything for these boys on a credit card so that not only would I have the sales receipt but also the credit card billing statement as a secondary proof. Yes I do buy the kids a lot of electronics, there is no bribe in that they want them and I provide them when I can.
You made yourself out to be an ass when you wanted to act like I do not do anything for these kids, then you turn around in your own words and state that I do in fact buy them things. So which is it? By the way, if you really want to harp on clothes etc you may need to read this, this is what child support is:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_support
Legal theory
Child support is based on the policy that both parents are obligated to support their children, even when the children are not living with both biological parents. Though courts typically permit visitation rights to non-custodial parents, in such separations one parent is often awarded custody and the role of primary caregiver. In such cases, the other parent still remains obligated to pay a proportion of the costs involved in raising the child. Child support may also be ordered to be paid by one parent to another when both parents are custodial parents and they share the child raising responsibilities. In rare cases, a parent with sole custody of his or her children may be ordered to pay child support to the noncustodial parent to support the children while they are in the care of that parent.
In most jurisdictions there is no need for the parents to be married, and only paternity and/or maternity (filiation) need to be demonstrated for a child support obligation to be found by a competent court. Child support may also operate through the principle of estoppel where a de facto parent that is in loco parentis for a sufficient time to establish a permanent parental relationship with the child or children.[19]
[edit] Use of child support payments
All international and national child support regulations recognize that every parent has an obligation to support his or her child. Therefore, the custodial and non-custodial parents are required to share the responsibility for their child(ren)'s expenses.[24][25][26][27][28][29][30]
Support monies collected are expected to be used for the child's expenses, including food, shelter, clothing and educational needs. They are not meant to function as "spending money" for the child.[31] Courts have held that it is acceptable for child support payments to be used to indirectly benefit the custodial parent. For example, child support monies may be used to heat the child's residence, even if this means that other people also benefit from living in a heated home.[32]
Child support orders may earmark funds for specific items for the child, such as school fees, day care or medical expenses. In some cases, non-custodial parents may pay for these items directly. For example, they may pay tuition fees directly to their child's school, rather than remitting money for the tuition to the custodial parent.[33] Orders may also require each parent to assume a percentage of expenses for various needs. For instance, in the U.S. state of Massachusetts, custodial parents are required to pay for the first $100 of annual uninsured medical costs incurred by each child. Only then will the courts consider authorizing child-support money from a non-custodial parent to be used for said costs.[34]
Many American universities also consider non-custodial parents to be partially responsible for paying college costs, and will consider their income in their financial aid determinations. In certain states, non-custodial parents may be ordered by the court to assist with these expenses.[35]
In the United States, non-custodial parents may receive a medical order that requires them to add their children to their health insurance plans. In some states both parents are responsible for providing medical insurance for the child/children.[36][37] If both parents possess health coverage, the child may be added to the more beneficial plan, or use one to supplement the other.[38] Children of active or retired members of the U.S. armed forces are also eligible for health coverage as military dependents, and may be enrolled in the DEERS program at no cost to the non-custodial parent.[39]
Accountability regulations for child support money vary by country and state. In some jurisdictions, such as Australia and custodial parents are trusted to use support payments in the best interest of the child, and thus are not required to provide details on specific purchases.[40] In other jurisdictions, a custodial parent might legally be required to give specific details on how child support money is spent at the request of the court or the non-custodial parent. In the United States, 10 states (Colorado, Delaware, Florida, Indiana, Louisiana, Missouri, Nebraska, Oklahoma, Oregon, and Washington) allow courts to demand an accounting on expenses and spending from custodial parents. Additionally, Alabama courts have authorized such accounting under certain specific circumstances.
Child support it used to help offset the costs the parent who has custody experiences. No where does it say that the non custodial parent is obligated to anything more. Any other money, gifts, or contributions by a non custodial parent are strictly voluntary and does not count towards the support obligation meaning you can not deduct those expenses. Those extras are done because the parent LOVES their child and WANTS to give them things the want or need. IT IS NOT REQUIRED.

And to respond to someone else on topix, yes the children do act out when they go back. It is always heartbreaking taking them back because they do not want to go back. It tears you apart when you know you have to make them. I have had to get the law to help me make the oldest understand that he can not just STAY here because he refuses to go home.

This is all about the boys plain and simple. If my boys were not crying to me, if they were happy I would learn to be happy for them. But they are NOT. They act out on their anger and get in trouble because they want to be with their mother. No child should have to feel that pain. Shame on you people for NOT CARING ENOUGH TO LISTEN TO THEIR NEEDS. Children do have a voice and it should be heard.

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