A kid would not call themselves old

I wonder who sent this? I does not take a rocket scentist to know this in fact did not come from a 13 year old kid. You people should be ashamed of yourselves.

Worst storm in two decades.....

A mom gets a feeling of helplessness when she is 300 miles from her babies. Here it is after 3AM and I can not rest. I have been following the KFVS 12 news for the area and watching the weather unfold. Parts of the area are without power, and there are fires sprouting up all over the place, I suppose from people trying to stay warm and their heat sources malfunctioning.
All the schools in the area are closed for the day thank God, but when you sit and you read and hear about all the things going on, there is no rest.
Boy’s if you read this post know that I am thinking about you, worried about you and praying that you two are safe and warm in this nasty storm that you are in. I wish I were with you to hold you in my arms and keep you warm and comfort you.

Sometimes a movie can touch us and give is strength

A few days ago I was not feeling well, and to top it off it was a little rainy outside, not a downpour, it was the kind of rain that is depressive, it just drizzles and drizzles all day long making it hard to be outside, and it was a cold rain to add to the other factors. So I decided to just rest for the day, try and sleep a little, relax and let whatever it was that was making me not feel so well would just go away.
While resting I decided to turn on the TV in my room and take in a movie or two on Lifetime Movie Network. I love having this station on my TV lineup; most of the stories presented in movie form are from real life stories that people live. We can all learn from these types of movies.
I was watching a movie about a teenage girl who had a traumatic event to happen in her life and she acted out in ways that were not appropriate, her actions were her way of dealing with the pain that she felt inside. Yes her way of dealing was wrong, but you see when the event happened in her life that affected her, she did not have a support system to lift her up in the ways that she needed. So she resounded to the only way she found to dull the pain she felt inside.
As the story progressed another event happened to her. The second traumatic event was a result of the actions she took to deal with the first traumatic event. The event that happened was very illegal and dealt with a boy from the same town who felt like he was untouchable. He would brag that no one would do anything about it because his family was untouchable. The thing is, this was not the first time he had done these things to a girl, but because of his stature, none of the other girls would step forward and talk. His family would make threats; he would threaten abuse and carry himself like he could not be touched.
The girl was threatened, and talked about, but she kept her head held high. The other girls who were victim to the things this boy had done seen how strong the girl was, and even though they were scared they decided to come forward for the girl. A lot of things happened along the way, the girl’s family was harassed, threatened, and degraded, however in the end all the girls come forward and the boy’s family money and stature did him no good. He was convicted of his crimes and had to pay for what he had done.
Seeing how strong this young lady was and how she fought for justice and the truth gave me inspiration. She won her case and I know now that I can too. No matter how hard people come at me, no matter what people want to say, true or not true, I know the truth and the truth will prevail.
Sometimes no words that people say can help you feel better about your situation, sometimes it takes seeing a true story unfold to give you renewed faith in seeking justice. My drive is now harder than it has ever been. I again have the faith to never stop until I prove the truth. And much like the girl in the movie, I have people who were scared to talk, but have agreed to in order to help me. WHY? Because they too were hurt by the same people and even though many years may have passed and there is little to no hope that they will ever find their own justice, they know the personal pain that I have and want to help so that I do not have to live like they have all those years.

Praying for strength from God

I recieved this from my grandmother and I wanted to share with you all.
Colossians- 3 -12,13.

Put on therefore,as the elect of God, Holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, Kindness, Humbleness

of mind, Meekness, longsuffering, Forbearing one another, and Forgiving one another.

If any man have a quarrel against any one\ even as Christ forgave you, also you must forgive.



A new begaining.


Leave the past behind-wake up each day and pray, thank God for whats gone right. For give

what,s gone array. Have strength to put away strife, and heart achs in your life..

Go forth today- start life anew, What comes your way- you,ll make it through

Reach out to others along your way, Trust God to guide you every day.

Let joy and peace be in your mind , and leave the past behind..



Composed & written by

Kathy Richardson 1/22/09

Bitchology

BITCHOLOGY When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a bitch.When I stand up for those I love, they call me a bitch.When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts or do things my own way, they call me a bitch.Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I live my life MY way.It means I won't allow anyone to step on me.When I refuse to tolerate injustice and speak against it, I am defined as a bitch.The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone's maid, or when I act a little selfish.It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I 'should' be.I am outspoken, opinionated and determined.I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that!So try to stomp on me, try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me. You won't succeed.And if that makes me a bitch , so be it.I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.
B - Babe
I - In
T - Total
C - Control of
H - Herself

B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman

B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle anything

I am an addiict

First and foremost what is addiction? The term "addiction" is used in many contexts to describe an obsession, compulsion, or excessive physical dependence or psychological dependence. So what am I addicted to?

I am addicted to my kids, I can not get enough of seeing them, loving them and giving unto them my entire self. I bet you were thinking I was going to say I was addicted some something else? OK so now that you have been stunned by the header of this post and now know what I am addicted to, you can go on with the judging.
I do have just one more addiction to admit to, I am addicted to creating, being an artist. This addiction is a healthy addiction. Being addicted to creating art is a healthy way to express your feelings, to vent your feelings, your frustrations, your happiness and your tears. By creating a piece of work I reflecting myself, inside and out.
So many people walk this earth judging other by their outward appearance. If you see someone on the street and they are covered with tattoos do you form an opinion in your mind of what that person is like? Sure, we all do…. We are HUMAN and that is what humans do. But when is the last time that you took the time to get to know someone who at first glance seemed like someone you would not want to know? You might be surprised at the person you meet. You never know what it is that is inside someone, inside their heart, their soul and their mind. You will never FULLY know or understand anyone. But by taking the time to listen and get to know them you can begin to understand more about them that what the picture of them in your first glance gave you in your mind. You will never know how deep their feelings run, or how they really feel about certain things.
Have you ever lost a loved one and people tell you they know how you feel? Did it frustrate you? For some people it does. For instance I have a friend who lost her husband to a really bad accident. I seen her, she was broken; she was a shell of the person she once was. She was dealing with her grief the only way she knew how. I could understand she was sad; she would never see him again, touch him again, hear his voice again or feel his embrace. But what I could never understand is how she felt about it all. How much pain that it caused her inside because we all deal with things in our own way. I could never know or understand the deepness of her own feelings. I could sympathize with her because I knew she felt pain, but no I did not then and will never know it was and is that she feels. If only more people understood this, I am sure we would all be better people.
When you see someone in pain, or someone who is not happy with you or something you do, do not say “I know how you feel” ask them to help you understand what is bothering them and work with them to find a way to help the situation. If you are creating anger with someone, ask them what it is that they are doing that is making you angry and then work on it, try your best to not do the things that makes this person tick.

Joshua 1:9

Power does not corrupt. Fear corrupts, perhaps the fear of a loss of power (Joshua 1:9).

National "Motherless" and "Fatherless" Day Rallies

Hello All,

We are asking that everyone get involved in the “National Motherless Day” & “National Fatherless Day” Rallies. This has been started by Families for Justice and Fathers for Justice. Mom’s and Dad’s will be supportive of each other at both rallies.

This is representative of the Mother’s Day and Father’s Day Holiday ’s, that we are not with our children to celebrate, and that we are taking a stand.

These yahoo groups are now set up Specifically for the Planning and Organizing of the First annual NATIONWIDE Motherless Day Rally and Second annual Fatherless Day Rally!

The “Motherless Day” Rally, is on Friday May 8th, from 12pm-3pm. We will campaign for a change outside either on the steps or the sidewalks of our State Capitols in the afternoon.

If you dont see the option to join so that you can help out, or have questions,

please email: nationalmotherlessd ay-subscribe@ yahoogroups. com

The “Fatherless Rally” will be held on June 19, 12pm-3pm, either on the steps or the sidewalks of our State Capitols in the afternoon.

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Alienators deserve what they get....

Alienating parents talk behind our back to our children and to other people. They try to paint a picture as if the non-custodial parent is a bad person. But what if the alienator were in our shoes? Would they act the way they act now? Would they talk the way they do now?
Some of us spend years keeping our mouths shut, and the pain builds. Every time we are denied a phone call or a visit it hurts. The alienating parent has one goal in mind and that is to poison the mind of the poor children who are involved. The non custodial parent lives for the next time they get to see their child.
A volcano does not erupt over night. It builds up with all its might, the hot lava that is eventually spews out onto the earth when it erupts. Non-custodial parents are nothing more than a volcano waiting to erupt.
If for just one day the custodial alienator could walk in our shoes and feel just what it is that we feel in one day’s time they would not act the way they do. If you are an alienating parent, stop and think, would you like to be separated from your children? How would you feel to go a day without speaking to them? To lay down and night and not be able to go to sleep because you do not know what kind of day your child had, or what they ate for dinner. Would you not react in the ways that have been acted upon you? If you are offended by some of the ways you have been treated, don’t be. You have opened the door for them to be done to you by doing the things you have done.
If you are an alienator really stop and think about what you are doing. You are destroying your children, yes you may be hurting your X spouse, but what if the shoe were on the other foot? If not on earth, then in death you will pay for destroying your children. This is not about you, it is not about your X spouse, this is what YOU are doing to the children you cling to for dear life and harbor against the other parent. The children are the real victims, they are the ones who will suffer the most. Is it really worth destroying your children over so that you can “have your way” ? When your children are grown and are having coping problems, you will be the one to blame?

Here is some interesting reading for those of you who do not totally understand what you are doing: http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/2009/01/do-they-have-feelings.html

Community Call Update: SpLiTnTwO

SpLiTnTwO (Join in) Host: Split n Two - splitntwo@yahoo. com Episode: EPISODE48 - Forensic Psycologist & Evaluator Dr.Rybicki ForenPsych Services is a private practice consultation and expert witness firm which specializes in criminal and civil litigation needs of attorneys and clients. Dr. Rybicki provides these forensic services from his offices in Washington state and California and may be able to appear elsewhere depending upon local rules. Dr. Rybicki has conducted several hundred forensic evaluations with a heavy emphasis on child custody evaluation, assessment of allegations of sexual abuse and domestic violence, personal injury and harassment cases, as well as competency to stand trial and insanity plea evaluations. Dr. Rybicki also has specialty skills in the area of occupational psychology and police psychology. He conducts pre-employment psychological assessments and fitness for duty evaluations. With over 25 years of experience in several states and Federal courts, Dr. Rybicki can offer you a variety of expert witness and evaluative services in several important areas. He remains current on the relevant research and practice and provides training to other forensic psychologists in several areas of expertise. He also provides consultation for deposition and trial preparation for direct and cross-examination of experts. Literature searches and case critique services are available. We also provide critical analysis and detailed reviews of other professional' s reports and evaluations, including serving as a rebuttal witness or consultant for such cases depending on your specific needs. Call ID: 15248
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NCP Support & Empowerment Exchange

NCP Support & Empowerment Exchange (Join in) Host: Joshua Rose Foundation - NCPSEE@gmail.com Episode: EPISODE 25-Self Destructive Behaviors: Are you or a loved one trapped? 3 weeks into the new year-did you make a goal to change a habit or behavior? Is it working? Are you feeling trapped by self destructive behaviors? Do you know the signs of self destructive behavior? What causes us to use self destructive behavior? How to stop self destructive behavior? Call ID: 28046
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Violence is a learned behaviour

If violence is a learned behaviour then someone is teaching children and young adults how to be aggressive and violent. You don’t have to look far for the culprit but doing something about it is a problem, are you following me?

Learning starts at home, which means that the primary caregivers are responsible for what a child see's and hears. Violence on TV is one major contributing factor. So if the parent of primary caregiver allows the TV to play violent content the parent or primary caregiver should be held accountable for the childs actions when he or she later acts out based on the content they have been allowed to view. Dr Thomas Radecki claimes that research proved overwhelmingly the link between TV violence and everyday anger, aggressiveness and crime. He was an expert witness in several trials where TV was the spur to a violent crime. TV is not limited to the viewable content, video games as well contribute.

Other learned behavior's are learnt from viewing actions at close range. For instance if a child see's someone get angry and try to maul another person over with their car, they are likely to commit to the same actions later down the road because they think it is OK to do so. In the event that something like that were to happen somewhere down the road who do you think will be held responsible? The child who seen the event naturally, however, I believe the person who taught the child to commit the choice in behaviour should also have to pay a price as well, as they are the one who commited the act in front of the child, therefore teaching the child to commit the act.

Chidren's lives are molded at home. If a child is in a home full of violence, the child will learn to be violent, if chidren are reared in homes full of gossip, the child will learn to gossip. The list could go on and on. The point is this, measure each action, reaction and word that you practice in the view of your children, think to yourself before you act consiously, or not and before you speak or act, will the actions, or words be something you would like to see your child repeat somewhere down the road? Be a role model, not a contributor to the next generation of confused people.

Proverbs 26:23-26

Smooth words may hide a wicked heart, just as a pretty glaze covers a common clay pot.
People with hate in their hearts may sound pleasant enough, but don't believe them. Though they pretend to be kind, their hearts are full of all kinds of evil. While their hatred may be concealed by trickery, it will eventually come to light for all to see.

A Happy New Year Recipe... for Happiness

A Happy New Year Recipe... for HappinessTake twelve whole months.Clean them thoroughly of all bitterness,hate, and jealousy.Make them just as fresh and clean as possible.Now cut each month into twenty-eight,thirty or thirty-one different parts,but don't make the whole batch at once.Prepare it one day at a timeout of these ingredients.Mix well into each day one part of faith,one part of patience,one part of courage,and one part of work.Add to each day one part of hope,faithfulness, generosity, and meditation,and one good deed.Season the whole with a dash of good spirits,a sprinkle of fun, a pinch of play,and a cupful of good humor.Pour all of this into a vessel of love.Cook thoroughly over radiant joy,garnish with a smile,and serve with quietness, unselfishness,and cheerfulness.

Time to reflect

I have been in serious collective thought throughout the past few weeks and have not written much except the verses that my bible opens to each day. The Holy Bible is living and breathing, whatever message that God wants you to hear will come to you. So I open my bible randomly and start reading on the pages that it opens up to. It always tells me what I need to know for the day to either teach me what I need to learn for the day or to comfort me.

A lot happened over the Christmas Holiday’s. And I needed some time to reflect upon those things and decide what my actions would be and to analyze how I felt about them. I took the boys for a ride so we could talk for a while; I wanted to know from them just what it was that they wanted from me. The conversation was a sad one. I felt so much pain for my little men. For the most part they wanted the fighting to stop, but it was the next part that blew me away. They both decided that they just wanted us all together again. I questioned myself and am still questioning myself on how to deal with that. It is very hard to explain to child that can not possibly understand that is not something that will happen, especially after ten years as well as the fact that I am in a stable, lengthy, healthy marriage. You really have to look deep for the right words to say when something like that is addressed. My reply was that even though mom and dad are not together does not mean that we are not a family. Despite the differences that we share, we are still bound together because of them, and nothing could ever change or would change that fact. I know it was not the answer they were looking for or even if it confused them even more. Is there any good way to say that you will never all live together again as a family unit? If there is I could not think of a way to say it so that it would not hurt them and still can not think of a way to say it either. Despite the moment of being confused as to what to say we had a good time together and ended up at the pet store to purchase some new friends to take home.

The sad part about this entire situation is how I had to get my oldest son. Apparently he is being told a lot of crap, which as we all know is Parent Child Alienation. I have NEVER in all the years since the divorce talked bad to my children about the other parent or family despite what I actually felt and thought of them. You just do not present a child with things like that. So more or less my oldest is being programmed and it is sick and twisted. I will not go into details as to how I had to end up getting him other than it was one of those nasty explosions. The worst part is that even though they tried to demolish his link with me and did so, it was only for a brief time. As soon as he was with me and we were out of range from his alienator he suddenly showed love and affection as he always has.

I see so much pain in the boys, and without me asking they told me why. The explained what their life really is like, and that they can not stand the fights and constant chaos that they live in. They just want it all to end and for life to be normal. I stand true to my word that as long as they are where they are, life will never be normal. Just the week of Christmas, yet again a family member was arrested for a violent act. It leaves a mother in terrible pain when she has to relinquish them back to the situation, you feel powerless and know that at the time all you can do is pray and wait until you can get your next day in court to try and remedy the situation and hope that nothing bad happens in between.


I heard someone say something tonight that made total sense. They were talking about the things that some of non-custodial parents do that is not appeasing to the other parent or family. They were talking about how we hold it all in and when we finally let it out they are shocked, but we do it out of the tremendous pain that we suffer each and every day. I have said it time and time again, and will many more times, there is no instruction book to a divorce, no crystal ball to tell our future, so we never know what were going to go through until we are there.

It is, or it should be hard for any parent when they can not or do not see their children, but it is especially hard on a mom because she bonded with that child nine months before anyone else even knew that child, that child grew in her body, her body nurtured and grew the child, it formed the child and at the end of the nine months she gets to see for the first time the baby that was inside her. There is no other feeling like seeing your baby for the first time and it is like a snapshot etched into your brain for the rest of your life that is something no one can take away. I am not against dad’s here, but just explaining why it is so much harder for a mom.

When I first started this journey of being a non-custodial mom I did not know much at all about it and felt like I was the only one in the world feeling what I feel, but that has changed. I am extremely grateful to the people that I have met along the way that share the same kind of experience. It is really sad that we have to be bound together this way, but I am grateful to know them, to be a shoulder to cry on, to have their shoulder to cry on and to learn together what we can do to improve the lives of our suffering children. Yes we feel immense pain, but the children are the real ones who are suffering and they should not have to.

I truly believe that 2009 will bring about a lot of change, not only for me but for others who are suffering right along with me, but mostly for my precious little men who should not be suffering as they are.

The pictures are proof that you can never take away the love that a mom and her boys share.

The Lee PAS Foundation EPISODE18

Host: The Lee PAS Foundation - theleepasfoundation@yahoo.com
Episode: EPISODE18 - The Lee PAS Foundation's Community Call with Bryan McGlothin
Join us with our very special guest speaker: "Bryan Lee McGlothlin." Bryan is an adult child survivor of abduction and alienation from his mother. He does speaking engagments all over the Nation, including the D.C. Family Preservations Festival. We all have experienced difficulties in our lives. The rollercoaster of life, at times, can be overwhelming. Each end everyone one of us has the capability to create, experience and share hope and joy. Bryan shares his experiences of his lifelong search for his mother, brain injury, difficult relationships, losing his daughter to show overcoming the difficult times and experiencing life at it's fullest is possible after tragedy. Parental Abduction/Alienation When a parent abducts their own child the taking parent must implement Parental Alienation in order to control the child. These tactics used on the child to create hate and fear of the targeted parent can have lifelong affects, known as Parental Alienation Syndrome, PAS. Bryan explains his father's destructive tactics he used for decades to control Bryan and how Parental Alienation still effects Bryan, forty years later. Join us tonight 9pm EST!! 724-444-7444 or www.talkshoe.com and bring your questions!
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Personal Message from the Host:Tonight we are blessed to have Bryan Lee McGlothin with us to tell us his experience as a child who was abducted and reunified with his mom after 30 yrs!!! Bryan speaks all over the world, and is the Founder and President of Prevent Parental Kidnap. Call in or sign on! www.talkshoe.com or 724-444-7444-ID 26868 See you all there!

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Episode: EPISODE47 - Child Therapist Vicki Barlow
Due to a schedule mix up we did not have Vicki on last week. Please join us this week with Vicki Barlow. Vicki Barlow LPC NCC is an experienced child therapist, providing therapy, assessment and consultive services in Biloxi Mississippi. Vicki Barlow has been researching how divorce affects children. Her clinical experience and research has shown her that it is the behavior of the parents more than the divorce that affects the children for better or worse. The children of parents that can maintain a civil relationship with each other and work together for the benefit of the children will fare best. Children are harmed when their parents put them in the middle of their fights and are not willing to co parent. She works with parent's to help them care for themselves and their children as they go through the divorce. Vicki Barlow, LPC, has extensive experience evaluating and treating children of all ages with gentle, non invasive therapy for successful resolution of their problems. She also has an extensive amount of experience with parental alienation and knows all to well how severe it can get for a child. Please join us for our first show of the New Year in 2009. Let's make this year the year of change for us as targeted parent's and for our alienated children. There are many things we can start doing that will pave the road for the day of reunification with our alienated children at the top of the list to care for ourselves the best we can so that we can better care for our children.
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Talkshoe-The Lee PAS Foundation Community Call

Date: Thursday January 8, 2009
Time: 9:00 pm - 11:00 pm
Come join us for our weekly talkshoe with special guests and special subjects. We speak about everything from advocacy to professionals dealing with Parental Alienation every day. Advocacy, support, therapeutic, attorneys, judges, and even real life situations.

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SPLIT-N-TWO: We Can No Longer Be Silent!

NANCM - National Association of Non-Custodial Moms

Jeremiah 31:16-17

But now the Lord says. "Do not weep any longer, for I will reward you. Your chidren will come back to you from the distant land of the enemy. There is hope for your future." says the Lord. "Your chidren will come again to their own land.

God does not forget his people

"For I know the plans I have for you." says the Lord. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope". Jeremiah 29:11

God did not forget his people, even though they were captive in Babylon. He planned to give them a new beginning with a new purpose-to turn them into new people. On times of deep trouble, it may appear as though God has forgotten you. But God may be preparing you, as he did the people of Judah, for a new beginning with him.

Dear Coward...We're taking over!