Purging into Spring...

As mentioned before, spring is here, soon to be summer. I am sure those hot days will slip in there before we know it. To those of you who are still experiencing cold weather, I am sorry to sound so enthusiastic about our weather here. But for me, seeing the tree’s back to life and the bounty of plants we are growing is witness to God’s blessings.
Several weeks ago we started some plants, in reality; it was a huge mess within the confines of our home, turned into beauty just a few weeks later on the outside. Seeing new life come into our landscape is addicting, and planning just where to put all these plants has been a lot of fun as well.
Today the sun is out in full force, and I am sure the temperatures are tethering in the 80’s somewhere, dangerously close to the 90’s. One can not help but want to be out in the sunshine and watch as almost hour by hour, the plants are growing and sprouting up out of the ground. Seeing how determined the plants are to grow and thrive, gives me the inspiration to do the same, as silly as that may seem that one would get inspiration from foliage it really does offer support, at least to me.
Over the last several years we have worked each spring and summer to make this piece of land that was nothing more than rolling hills of weed patches into something more ascetically pleasing to the eye. In March of 2001 we officially moved onto this land. That first year was spent more or less indoors. The years following have been spent working on the outside part. We are nowhere near complete with any of it, but it does look better than it did. Our goals are still far away, but as they say, all good things come to those who wait.
One of the goals this spring is to purge. You see, by ridding our lives of clutter, we become better people and help others in the process. One the main reasons that many people need to purge is that they have more than they really need, and in the process their willingness to purge may help someone else out. Our homes may not be the only space that many of us need to purge. The fact is, many of us are carrying around excess baggage in our personal lives that we need to learn to purge in order to become better people.
So today I challenge each person who reads this blog to purge some of those pent up feelings you have, and turn them into something more worthwhile. If you have areas of your life that need improving on, work on it, if you are holding things inside, get them out, tell the person you are holding things against what it is that bothers you, and work on improving those feelings even if the person you hold things against does not see things your way. But by never purging those true feelings to someone, they will never know why you stand where you stand and there will always be a riff. Lets not only spring clean our houses we live in but our hearts and souls as well.

There is 1 day left to Awareness Day!

Fourth Annual Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting Awareness Day coming up on April 25, 2009
To see all the events planned go to: http://www.paawarenessday.org/

PAS / HAP for Dummies!

April 21, 209 update

It has been a while since I have had the time to sit down and write my own content, for which I apologize. I have been getting emails from so many of you wanting updates on what all is happening and if I have not responded to you directly please do not take it personally, it is just a busy time of the year.

The “busy” has exhausted me. As we all know spring is here and that means Spring Cleaning and getting the garden started, those things along with going to meetings, the traveling I have had to do to be at meetings, and all the prep work for the court cases still ahead of us has made me wish that the days were longer than they are. But what I really need is a day at the spa!

One would think by now I would have it all together, but the thing is, each new stone I turn, there is new information that I have to put together. It seems almost a never ending task putting the things together that have surfaced over the past few months. Don’t be deceived by my words, there is no complaining here, only what seems to be a never ending treasure trove of viable content that warrants emotions that spin my head like a roller coaster. Not that any of the viable information should have come as any surprise, but some of still spins my head, even though I knew it was out there, just getting the concrete proof that it was is taxing.

The frustrations that led me to open the site, and to blog about it are slowly but surely dissolving, no those emotions are not going away, they are evolving. The evolution of what to some seemed like someone who was out of her mind has turned out to be some of the best therapy, and a tool that has opened eyes that were once closed.

So do I still feel the way I felt when I started all of this? The answer is clearly YES!!! Before, information was held or not talked about because of lies and deceit, however when those lies were exposed, the tables started to turn. It almost makes you want to say “How do you like me now?” There is no need for you to answer that, it’s just a figure of expression.

Naturally I feel that we should have been in court months ago, but as I stated above the new information that comes in has to be put together, remember Rome was not built overnight. Much like the freemasons I was left with my compass and square as my only tools. So where do we stand today? The first two of many petitions have been filed and served, we are now waiting on the formal response to be filed with the courts, at which time those motions will be set for trial.

I talked some time ago in this blog about the Family Access Act, which is one of the two motions that have been filed. If you missed the posting about the Family Access motion or you are not aware of what it is I will give a brief summery of it.

The Family access motion in some states is actually a civil suit. More or less what it is for is when a non custodial parent is denied his or her visitation rights by the custodial parent. At the time the motion is seen by the judge the non custodial parent’s legal representation will provide to the judge the affidavits that the non custodial parent reported to the local law enforcement each time their rights were violated, along with providing to the judge the original order of decree showing that those periods were in fact valid periods of visitation.

At the time of the hearing in front of the judge the custodial parent must convince the judge as to his or her own actions to avoid the repercussions that can result from their actions. If found guilty the custodial parent is held in contempt of a court order and can face such penalties as:

* Have to compensate the non custodial parent with the time lost with the children. (This is the less evasiveof the repercussions)
*The violator can be court ordered to enter into counseling.
*The violator can be held financially responsible to pay for counseling for the children as well as the non custodial parent in order to reunify a relationship between the child(ren) and the non-custodial parent.
*The violator can be ordered to post a cash bond to ensure that they will no longer violate the court order.
*The violator can be fined $500 for their actions.
*The violator if found guilty can be held financially responsible for paying for the legal fee’s paid by the petitioner in order to bring the motion to court.

Moving on to the second motion filed, it is the motion to modify the latest decree entered into the courts. More or less, asking that custody be changed from him, over to me. Once the motion was served (which it was served on April 8, 2009) Roger has 30 days in order to have legal representation and to file his response. This is where all that work comes in, during this time I had to check and recheck all the information that I have gathered and those items have to be entered into evidence. Then it’s another waiting game. That is where we are today.

I am confident with the documents and affidavits that have been put together by not only my lawyer and me but by the angels who have stepped up to help me in this. As I stated before I am not going to go into a lot of details as to the findings, and I am not sure that I ever will, that is a decision I will ponder more on at a later date, due to the fact that many items that have surfaced are of the criminal nature (not criminal of myself, but by others directly related to this case) and actually warrant the other motions I talked about earlier. There is at least two if not more than two civil suits that can filed. I will state this however, you can not make a mountain of a molehill, but if you have a lot of molehills, they collectively can become a mountain.

Once again I am sorry that I have not been available more to keep everyone up to date with what has been going on but your concerns and prays are much appreciated. I ask that you continue to keep the boys and everyone involved in this case on your prayer lists as there is power in prayer and unity. I am hoping that now that the bulk of the work part is over that I will be able to have the time once again to concentrate more on PAS because DC Family Fest 2009 will be here before we know it!

New Page added to the main site

I have added a new page to the main site. I have had a lot of email asking me for updates, so we now have a new update page. http://www.justiceforjustinandjeramygolden.com
I know a lot of you have been praying, and we encourage you to keep doing so. Please check with the main site for updates as this case progresses.

Looking back.....