A Christmas Story ...

Christmas as we all know has always been a child’s favorite holiday. The lights, the smells, and the joys of opening up prettily wrapped presents to discover the contents, perhaps it is something they asked for all year long, perhaps it is something they have dreamt of, and perhaps it is something that they need.
A few years back I had put in my request to be off for the Holiday’s long before the Holiday approached. I had been listening closely to the things mentioned all year long that the boys said they wanted or would like to have. I started my shopping in September. Each week I would get a couple of things on their list, I was just as excited about Christmas coming as they were.
That particular year deliveries were behind and man power was short so we all had to work a little harder. We did not mind so much because they more stops we put off and the more miles that we drove all added to the paycheck.
My deliveries waned over into Christmas Eve. The entire day I was in a rush, I was almost in tears because I felt like I would not be at home in the morning when the boys woke up. I have always watched them open their presents on Christmas morning, I could not stand the thought of missing this one.
All day long I put off my stops in Georgia. Finally at 5PM no stores would accept any more deliveries, as they were closing to go home and be with their families. At this point I was directed to go to a shipping yard and hand offload the rest of my load onto another trailer along with some other drivers who had not been able to offload their complete loads that day as well.
After hand unloading case-goods furniture onto another trailer it was after six PM Christmas Eve. I then had to drive 311 miles from Atlanta, GA back to our trucking company’s yard in Mississippi. It was almost midnight when I arrived at the yard in Mississippi. I then had to grab my gear, and get into my car and drive 65 miles to my home to load up all the presents, pack our bags for a few day’s stay away from home and clean up from working all day.
It was a little after 2AM Christmas morning when we were packed and ready to go. We then made the five hour drive to my mothers house to be there when the kids woke up to open their presents. I prayed the entire way that they would not wake up and momma not be there.
I did make it before they woke up and I was able to see their faces when they walked into the den to see all the things that Santa had left for them.
Later in the day we were playing with all the new toys and having a good time, I happen to ask them if they had a good Christmas at home. This is when my heart broke. They boys explained to my entire family that they got to open one present each. I said “Well you can open the rest when you get back home after Christmas Break” Their response “No, we can not open the rest until our aunt gets out of prison in a couple of months”
I had to walk out of the room and have myself a good cry. WHY should children be made to wait for the happiest Holiday of the year because someone else is in prison?? To this day I have not forgotten the look on their faces, and the pain I felt in my own heart that they had to sacrifice because someone else’s mistakes. All my sacrifice, hard work and determination to be there for them on Christmas morning was worth it all. If I had failed to have been there Christmas morning, what kind of Christmas would they have had that year? I thank God for watching over me and helping me have the strength to get to Missouri to be with my boys safely and on time.

I wonder who this is and how many more like this I have hmmmm

Click on the pictures to enlarge them. This just goes to show that ABUSE has been going on for YEARS.... These pictures are circa 1995 I have more too.......

It is amazing the things you hold on to isnt it.

SKIP... Do YOU pay child support ON your DAUGHTER?

OK we mentioned MY child support. But my question is DOES SKIP PAY HIS? He has a daughter, she is a beautiful child. So if child support, which I DO PAY…. YEAH I HAVE ALL MY DOCUMENTS SUPPORTING THAT FACT…. Then why would it be OK for him to not pay. Anyone want to ask him why he isn’t paying for a child that he brought into this world.
READ MY POST BELOW this one.
CHILD SUPPORT IS PAID EVEN WHEN ALL TIES HAVE BEEN SEVERED, THERE IS NO CONTACT etc etc. So next time someone wants to talk about me not paying the support that I do pay and how important child support is, before you point another finger GOLDEN CLAN look within your own to see if you are making the mistakes you accuse others of making. Keep it up, your outing yourself more and more.
One more thing, if you think what I am going in public is bad, wait to you see what I am doing in private. Just a heads up. I will NOT STOP AND I WILL NOT SHUT UP until I know my boys are happy, safe and taken care of EVEN if it is NOT ME who takes care of them. This is not about ME in anyway, this is ALL about my children’s wellbeing.

Child support and bribing please....

About the child support, it has been said that I do not pay. It comes out of my check weekly, and when I was self employed it was drafted from my check account weekly. If you are not getting the support you need to work with Jefferson City to find out where the money is. You know this has happened to you before. My check stubs and bank accounts tell no lies.
As far as clothes go, I made it a point to purchase everything for these boys on a credit card so that not only would I have the sales receipt but also the credit card billing statement as a secondary proof. Yes I do buy the kids a lot of electronics, there is no bribe in that they want them and I provide them when I can.
You made yourself out to be an ass when you wanted to act like I do not do anything for these kids, then you turn around in your own words and state that I do in fact buy them things. So which is it? By the way, if you really want to harp on clothes etc you may need to read this, this is what child support is:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_support
Legal theory
Child support is based on the policy that both parents are obligated to support their children, even when the children are not living with both biological parents. Though courts typically permit visitation rights to non-custodial parents, in such separations one parent is often awarded custody and the role of primary caregiver. In such cases, the other parent still remains obligated to pay a proportion of the costs involved in raising the child. Child support may also be ordered to be paid by one parent to another when both parents are custodial parents and they share the child raising responsibilities. In rare cases, a parent with sole custody of his or her children may be ordered to pay child support to the noncustodial parent to support the children while they are in the care of that parent.
In most jurisdictions there is no need for the parents to be married, and only paternity and/or maternity (filiation) need to be demonstrated for a child support obligation to be found by a competent court. Child support may also operate through the principle of estoppel where a de facto parent that is in loco parentis for a sufficient time to establish a permanent parental relationship with the child or children.[19]
[edit] Use of child support payments
All international and national child support regulations recognize that every parent has an obligation to support his or her child. Therefore, the custodial and non-custodial parents are required to share the responsibility for their child(ren)'s expenses.[24][25][26][27][28][29][30]
Support monies collected are expected to be used for the child's expenses, including food, shelter, clothing and educational needs. They are not meant to function as "spending money" for the child.[31] Courts have held that it is acceptable for child support payments to be used to indirectly benefit the custodial parent. For example, child support monies may be used to heat the child's residence, even if this means that other people also benefit from living in a heated home.[32]
Child support orders may earmark funds for specific items for the child, such as school fees, day care or medical expenses. In some cases, non-custodial parents may pay for these items directly. For example, they may pay tuition fees directly to their child's school, rather than remitting money for the tuition to the custodial parent.[33] Orders may also require each parent to assume a percentage of expenses for various needs. For instance, in the U.S. state of Massachusetts, custodial parents are required to pay for the first $100 of annual uninsured medical costs incurred by each child. Only then will the courts consider authorizing child-support money from a non-custodial parent to be used for said costs.[34]
Many American universities also consider non-custodial parents to be partially responsible for paying college costs, and will consider their income in their financial aid determinations. In certain states, non-custodial parents may be ordered by the court to assist with these expenses.[35]
In the United States, non-custodial parents may receive a medical order that requires them to add their children to their health insurance plans. In some states both parents are responsible for providing medical insurance for the child/children.[36][37] If both parents possess health coverage, the child may be added to the more beneficial plan, or use one to supplement the other.[38] Children of active or retired members of the U.S. armed forces are also eligible for health coverage as military dependents, and may be enrolled in the DEERS program at no cost to the non-custodial parent.[39]
Accountability regulations for child support money vary by country and state. In some jurisdictions, such as Australia and custodial parents are trusted to use support payments in the best interest of the child, and thus are not required to provide details on specific purchases.[40] In other jurisdictions, a custodial parent might legally be required to give specific details on how child support money is spent at the request of the court or the non-custodial parent. In the United States, 10 states (Colorado, Delaware, Florida, Indiana, Louisiana, Missouri, Nebraska, Oklahoma, Oregon, and Washington) allow courts to demand an accounting on expenses and spending from custodial parents. Additionally, Alabama courts have authorized such accounting under certain specific circumstances.
Child support it used to help offset the costs the parent who has custody experiences. No where does it say that the non custodial parent is obligated to anything more. Any other money, gifts, or contributions by a non custodial parent are strictly voluntary and does not count towards the support obligation meaning you can not deduct those expenses. Those extras are done because the parent LOVES their child and WANTS to give them things the want or need. IT IS NOT REQUIRED.

And to respond to someone else on topix, yes the children do act out when they go back. It is always heartbreaking taking them back because they do not want to go back. It tears you apart when you know you have to make them. I have had to get the law to help me make the oldest understand that he can not just STAY here because he refuses to go home.

This is all about the boys plain and simple. If my boys were not crying to me, if they were happy I would learn to be happy for them. But they are NOT. They act out on their anger and get in trouble because they want to be with their mother. No child should have to feel that pain. Shame on you people for NOT CARING ENOUGH TO LISTEN TO THEIR NEEDS. Children do have a voice and it should be heard.

The pain of loosing your child

Loosing custody and contact with your child is worse than the pain you would feel from loosing a child to a death, at least when you loose a child to a death you know where they are. You still grieve, you still miss them and by all means it is hard on a mother to loose a child that way. But when you have living children that you are not a part of their everyday life you worry, you cry, you pray, your mind is constantly on where they could be, what are they doing, what are they having for dinner, did school go good today or bad, did they see something silly today to make them laugh, did they think of you today?

I am thinking of you boy's now and every minute of every day. Keep strong, be good and always know I LOVE YOU LIKE NO ONE EVER HAS OR WILL I AM YOUR MOMMA

Sometimes the truth hurts

In life one has to be careful about what they say and do becacuse their wrods and actions can come back. I wonder to myself why it is that some people get so angry when the truth is told? Is it out of shame?

If you feel shame for something you have said or done and your words or actions come back to you the best thing to do is to say "I know I am not perfect I have made mistakes" and live with the fact that the truth always prevails.

Always be careful with your words and actions, what you say or do today can come back on you tomarrow.

Will your hurt you? Or benifit you?

Mother to Mother

Think back in time, the moment that you become a mother. You spent months growing this precious bundle inside your very own body. You had dreamt of that day, and it is now a reality. The moment your precious bundle of joy was laid in your arms I bet you were wearing a smile, were you not?
At that very moment everything changed, you changed, everything around you changed. The selfishness of being one was diminished when you became more than one, you are now a mother. You longer think the same, feel the same or see things the same. Dreams for your baby’s future fill your heart, your soul and your mind. You spend every moment filled with worry for the life that changed your own, every moment filled with joy to have a part of you in this world.
Remember all the times that you skipped eating that desert you so loved because that little life you created wanted it, so you went without in order to make your child happy? The times you really wanted a new outfit, but you seen a really cute one that would compliment your child perfectly so you forsake your own want for a new outfit?
How sweet the kisses and hugs were, they were real love, a love only a mother and child can share. No one on this earth means more to a mother than her children, no one can take her constant need to worry, love, cry, and be happy with her child. But what one can take is the ability to carry out these emotions.
A real mother loves unconditionally, and she would never hurt another mother’s relationship with her child, it’s an unwritten but understood rule of life. Just think about what it would feel like to have your child ripped from your arms and turned against you, used against you. How would you feel?