If Jesus Were Born Today

Though I know that no matter what age GOD allowed His only begotten Son to be born in He would ultimately protect HIM for the cause of cross yet this really makes one stop and think about how our idea of protecting children can really go wrong...





If Jesus Were Born Today


A frightening look at how Social Services would have 'interacted' with the Nativity



Child advocates would remove the child from the custody of his mother when they discovered she was shacking with a guy (not the child’s father) in a barn. In most jurisdictions that would constitute child neglect.
Of course, Mary would have an underpaid court appointed attorney to represent her in the dependent-neglect proceeding, and Joseph would be out of luck once it was determined that paternity could not be established within a reasonable degree of medical certainty through blood or DNA testing(97% probability that Joe was the dad is sufficient, but absent divine intervention, that couldn’thappen, hmmm?). He would be excluded from juvenile court as a stranger to the proceeding and investigated for possible sexual deviance (all those oxen and donkeys around), and he would be told that he had no standing to object since he was not the natural father of the child and was not yet married to Mary (by their own admissions they had not yet consummated their union).
The Division of Children and Family Services would ask the court to order Mary to take parenting classes, and the Court would order that homemaker services be provided as well, since obviously Mary can’t keep house properly (the place where the DHS workers found the child was kept remarkably like a barn). Mary would be allowed to have one visit with Jesus per week at the Centers for Youth
and Families. The visit would be one hour long, and supervised by a therapist since Jesus would no doubt be put in therapeutic foster care to prevent psychological damage resulting from the horrible lack of civilization to which he had been exposed at such a tender age.
At the eighteen month dispositional hearing, the court would consider terminating parental rights because of Mary’s refusal to bring a paternity suit against Jesus’ true biological father (or even to identify him to the satisfaction of the Court). The Court would be appalled at the life choices Mary would have made: she would have completed her marriage to Joseph (that suspected sexual deviant) and had more children by him, which was obviously contrary to Jesus’ best interest. Since Mary and Joseph had fled the jurisdiction with Jesus once to escape encounters with the authorities, they would determine that Mary and Joe had nefarious plans to abscond with the Ward of the State to Egypt again, where they would possibly engage in dangerous and illegal activities with him. Parental rights would be terminated, and Jesus would be put up for adoption.
He would be adopted by the Herods, a well-connected and politically powerful family, who have been searching for just such a child as Jesus. Of course, Jesus will die in the custody of his adoptive family, because that’s all they wanted him for in the first place. Social services will NOT have intervened prior to his death because the state social workers could never imagine someone as highly placed as the Herods exploiting children or torturing them to death. The political ramifications for the Herods would have been too severe. In all likelihood, the social service agencies would cover up the death as one occurring from accident, and Herod’s good name will be preserved.

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Forgiveness for the sinner

2 Corinthians 3:9-11 I wrote to you as I did to find out how far you would go in obeying me. When you forgive this man, I forgive him, too. And when I forgive him (for whatever is to be forgiven) I do so with Christs authority for your benifit so that satan will not outsmart us. For we are very familiar with his evil schemes.

Sociopaths are fundamentally different

ndamentally different

The truly scary thing about sociopaths is that they are fundamentally different from the rest of us. They do not want what we want. They do not value what we value.

Normal human beings want affection, cooperation and achievement. We want to care about others and contribute to life. Sociopaths want power, control and sex, and they’ll destroy anyone and anything to get what they want.

But sociopaths look like us and appear to act like us. That’s why they are so hard to identify. It’s also why people who have not experienced their manipulation up close and personal find it so difficult to believe us. The uninitiated—those lucky souls who have not been devastated by a sociopath—have yet to learn that there are people in the world for whom proclamations of love, truth and promises are nothing but tactics in a power game.

Everything changes

This is the bottom line: Dealing with a sociopath changes everything. Normal human courtesies do not apply. Social protocols do not apply. Rules do not apply. Contracts do not apply. Laws do not apply.

If we find that we are interacting with a sociopath, the best thing we can do is get the person out of our lives. When that is not possible, we need to be on mental red alert at all times and understand that anything the person says may be a lie. We need to know that for the sociopath, we are not a friend, or a lover, or a relative, or a co-worker. For a sociopath, all we are is a target.

Important progress for an alienated grandparent

Alienation goes much deeper than into just the hearts of parents as I'm sure everyone here knows. Extended family members feel the pain too and many child grow up and then grow old without ever knowing many extended family members..... .....pretty sickening in my opinion.
But here is some progress!!!! !!

State Supreme Court grants grandmother visitation rights
By Elizabeth Dinan
edinan@seacoastonli ne.com
June 04, 2009 7:48 PM
PORTSMOUTH -- Kathi Dufton had to go to the Supreme Court for the right to see two of her granddaughters.

"I want to hug them so badly," Dufton said Thursday, one day after the state's highest court ruled that keeping her apart from the girls who call her "grammy" would be "cruel and inhumane."

"The Court should be lauded for ruling so quickly and decisively," said attorney Justin Nadeau, who successfully argued the case before the Supreme Court a month ago.

According to the court's decision, Dufton, now a Newington mother of six and grandmother of eight, was 17 years old when she gave birth to a daughter and relinquished her parental rights by placing that daughter up for adoption.

When that daughter, Vicki Shepard, was 26, she reunited with her mother and for the next 13 years they "were very close," the court found. They vacationed together, visited every other weekend and Dufton attended the birth of her daughter's two daughters.

"It was like a hole in my heart had been filled," Dufton recalled.

Shepard was later diagnosed with cancer and when she died in March of 2005, Dufton was at her side, the court noted in its decision.

Two years later, the grandchildren' s father began denying Dufton visitation with the girls and she brought him to Superior Court. According to court records, the girls' father argued Dufton had no right to see them because she was not their natural grandmother. She gave up those rights when she placed Shepard for adoption, he argued.

The Superior Court initially sided with Dufton, but the ruling was reversed in favor of the father by the same judge. Nadeau immediately offered to take the case on appeal to the Supreme Court, said Dufton.

"He knew the situation, spent endless time on it and my only expense was for legal research," she said. "He's a remarkable young man and I love him to pieces."

On June 3 the Supreme Court reversed the lower court's ruling, finding Dufton is indeed the girls' "natural grandmother" and entitled to visitation.

"In a situation such as the present one, where the child's natural parent has died suddenly, the love and commitment of grandparents can be a source of security which lessons the trauma occasioned by the parent's death," the court wrote.

The case now goes back to the superior court, which is expected to revise its order and mandate visits between grandmother and grandchildren.

"It's going to be amazing," said Dufton, who has seen the girls only once in the past year.

"This is a huge victory for grandchildren who deserve every bit of love and nurturing they can receive from giving and caring grandparents, such as Kathleen Dufton," said Nadeau. "It was an honor to represent her."

http://www.seacoast online.com/ articles/ 20090604- NEWS-90604036

A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction To Parental Alienation

by Rick Ortiz

Editor, DadsDivorce.com

The very nature of the form of abuse called Parental Alienation is one that has the power to turn every aspect of the lives it touches seemingly upside-down. Powered by subtle and not so subtle, conscious and unconscious implementation of mind-control and brainwashing, the alienating parent systematically turns a child against the "target" parent.

In their book A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation, Michael Jeffries and Dr. Joel Davies present for alienated parents a case study that offers several perspectives on this upside-down world that the entire, fractured family begins inhabiting at the onset of this form of abuse.



Jeffries and Davies began their work together when Jeffries enlisted the psychologist's help in dealing with his own family issues following his divorce. In A Family's Heartbreak, Jeffries, a journalist by trade, has crafted a resource that reads with all of the real suspense that naturally goes along with the mounting tension of an alienator's gradual overtaking of their child's mind in an effort to use the child as a weapon against the other parent.

One of the difficulties with describing or discussing or writing about parental alienation is the seemingly knee-jerk dismissals of the condition as nothing more than a misogynistic attack on women. Though all experts on the behavior agree that both men and women can exhibit alienating behavior. Jeffries deals with the problem of gender pronouns in the book's introduction, explaining that in his case the alienator was a woman, but making clear that this is not true in all cases. "I sincerely apologize to all alienated Moms if I make it appear that only Dads are victims of parental alienation," Jeffries writes. "I tried not to confuse [the reader] by using one set of pronouns to tell my family's story and another set of pronouns for generic references."

The book itself is constructed of several storytelling elements that keep things fresh. Narrative sections tell the story of the divorce and the subsequent escalation of abuse delivered via the words and actions of Jeffries youngest son who bore the weight of the abuse and, as children will, played the role of "caretaker" for the emotionally crippled abusive parent. Dialogues similar to scripts allow Jeffries and Davies to "explain" the background and motives for this form of abuse to the reader as Jeffries asks the real questions that a target parent is puzzling over: "Why is my child acting this way? Do they really hate me? Why is my ex doing this? What will happen? What should I do?" The third story-telling element used by Jeffries is the open journals and letters to Adam (the child in the middle) where a target parent tries to make sense of what is happening all around him, and writes down the things that he wishes he could say to his child, but which would surely be spat back in his face if he dared try voice them.

The story will resound in a particularly comforting and familiar way to a targeted parent as Jeffries describes the warning signs that he unwittingly dismissed during the marriage, but which resurfaced after his announcement that he was filing for divorce. Also explored are the particulars of increasingly dysfunctional relations within the fractured family, and the desperation of a parent powerless to intercede and stop the abuse.

Through its use of client/professional dialogues, A Family's Hearbreak offers not only a case study, but professional insight into the psychology that leads a parent to cling unfairly to a child to supply their emotional stability at great peril to the child's own developing personality.

One of the most difficult challenges facing the targeted parent is the difficulty in relying upon professionals such as psychologists, counselors, attorneys, guardians ad litem, and judges who truly do not understand PAS and who have not dedicated any serious studied to it. In a DadsDivorce inverview with Jeffries he admits that he was lucky to find a psychologist who truly understood the dynamics of PAS.

Jeffries handles the difficult subject with a mastery that comes from not only his personal experience but also his professional understanding of how to make the incomprehensible as clear as it can be. Suggest this book to a friend who doesn't know where to go for help.

For more information about this book, go to: http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com


Rick Ortiz is the editor of DadsDivorce.com

Risk of Suicidality in Children Treated w Strattera (Dec 05)

FDA recently alerted health care providers that treatment of children and adolescents with Strattera increases the risk of suicidal thinking. Strattera (atomoxetine) is approved to treat ADHD in patients 6 years and older.

The increased risk of suicidal thinking was identified in a combined analysis of 12 placebo-controlled trials lasting six to eighteen weeks. This analysis showed that 0.4% of children treated with Strattera reported suicidal thinking compared to no reports in children treated with placebo. A similar analysis in adults treated with Straterra for either ADHD or major depressive disorder found no increased risk of suicidality with use of the drug.

A new boxed warning will point out that children who are started on Strattera therapy should be observed closely for suicidal thinking or behaviors, clinical worsening, or unusual changes in behavior. This is especially important during the initial months of therapy or when the dose is changed.

Families should contact their child's doctor if they observe any of these signs.
Eli Lilly, the drug's manufacturer, will also be developing a Patient Medication Guide to provide this information directly to patients and their caregivers.